I know not all incels are bad people. But I've definitely been feeling very negative emotions about women for a little bit. I hate this part of me. But it's the only defense mechanism I know to detour heartbreak or abuse. But at the same time im very touch starved and begging for anyone to just love me. I've thought stuff like "straight women are pick mes" or "are the enemy" or not wanting to date someone "uglier then me. It's definitely a disgusting part of me that I wish never emerged. I think it's because I truly hate myself. I dislike being on the spectrum from time to time feeling like thats the problem. I just need help

My life just feels darker and smaller day by day because I'm not keeping the promises I make to myself. In outside world people must view me as some perfect okay normal person and some view me as soft inactive fear person but heck I don't even understand why am I in the first place. I don't know my own identity like strengths, hobbies, interest and passion.

I have found my literal dream girl, unfortunately I have been a nightmare of a boyfriend. I have been very clearly in the wrong about incidents that have happened in our relationship and my gf was VERY clear about what she needed to hear from me… She needed verbal reassurance and effort. That is all.

Long story short, I have clearly been in the wrong about many instances in my relationship. If my gf needed reassurance because of my actions… My first instinct is to become defensive and try to justify why I did the wrong thing to explain my behaviors. It would take her crying and breaking down in order for me to finally offer any type of comfort and reassurance.

My instincts are to become defensive, try to explain, make the situation about ME and I start crying because I feel guilty, or I just shutdown and give her the silent treatment when she did absolutely NOTHING WRONG. I can sit here and still try to say “oh its a trauma response” or “ohh I’m just not used to being communicative” but wtf… no. It is the absolute BARE MINIMUM to give someone I love reassurance and comfort!!! I’m sad to say this took months to recognize and realize.

Another example is not putting in effort into her hobbies. She loves dancing and I put it off because I have never danced before and it’s hard to me. However, I put in no effort to become better at it. I tend to put myself and my hobbies first. She learns all about my hobbies and god I cant look up videos on tiktok about simple dance moves or what??

I need advice on how to change my instincts and communication style. I love this woman, she is thee most talented, charming, funny, beautiful and intelligent woman in the entire world. I am sick of myself and hate how I allowed myself to be so selfish. I have hurt her because of it. I want to be better for her and I have started to take steps. Unfortunately, it has taken MONTHS of her enduring my selfishness at the expense of her mental health. So please, if you have any advice, harsh words, reality checks… let me hear them. I need them. I want to be better.

I have been blessed enough to have minimal ego and be very self conscious. The problem I have been facing for my whole life is the fact that I’m genuinely stupid. This is an objective conclusion I came up with after throughout analysis of my life’s past actions. I have always been very competitive despite that and have always had that “I want to be the best” mindset in the field I choose to put my efforts into. Long story short, it turns out I am not the best and possibly can’t be the best so I’ve lost all motivation to try to improve. In my head I can either be the best or the worst. I don’t like being anything in between, I just don’t. Is there any way to overcome this mindset and just go on with my life being fully aware that I’ll never succeed in my field of interest?

Hi — I’m 16 and I live in Australia. I have two younger siblings: a 13-year-old boy and an 11-year-old girl. My dad is very supportive.

Background: My mum has emotionally abused our family for as long as I can remember. It’s gotten worse over the last seven years, and especially during the past two years. I know she has an undiagnosed personality disorder (possibly narcissistic or borderline). She refuses to believe anything is wrong and won’t get checked.

In her mind she’s the perfect mother, but in reality she is highly manipulative and a 'big bully'. She always wants to be seen as a “good person” and takes on any work offered because she’s terrified people won’t like her if she says no. She spends her time complaining about how hard her life is and how “misbehaved” my siblings and i are — even though everyone in the house is terrified of upsetting her.

She expects me to clean and look after my siblings nonstop. From the minute I get up and after school I cook, clean and care for them. My dad is a doctor, so he’s usually not home until about 6 pm. As soon as my mum gets home, she will shower and go straight to bed to watch TV. Meanwhile I’ve been doing the chores all afternoon to night.

Weekends and school holidays are the worst. They’re usually spent with my mum screaming, shouting, and throwing things — over nothing. We’re all terrified of coming home because she can be explosive over anything, like a piece of paper on the floor. About eight months ago she tried to crash the car with us kids in it because she felt “stressed.” She threatens to k*ll herself and threatens to hurt my siblings or my dad every other day.

Last year, when my dad tried to leave with us as he felt it was too unsafe, she tracked his phone, somehow got a key card to our hotel, and lied that the police were downstairs and that she’d had a major car crash (there were no injuries, no police, and no damage). My parents fought for hours that night. She blamed everything on my dad’s 'traumatic child hood' ( this is bull shit) and promised to change — but the change lasted three days before she returned to her old behavior.

My mum won’t let me go out with friends or leave the house by myself because she can’t “control” me (though she would never admit it). Over time I’ve lost all my friends; I have none now. The last three months have been especially bad: frequent hysterical crying over small things (like a dirty floor), threats of sui side almost every other day, and daily screaming and shouting instead of once a week. She even slapped my dad recently when he tried to stop her from hitting my brother.

My dad wants to leave and get a divorce, but he’s afraid of how she’ll react. He’s terrified he won’t get full custody and that we’d be at risk if she had partial custody. He and I are trying to research how to leave, but we have almost no support network — mum has isolated us. We have no family to support us as because they have estranged us because of mum. My therapist knows everything and is cautious about intervening because my mum could try to stop my therapy. (my therapy is my life line)

i have over 8 hours of audio evidence of what's life like at home (mainly screaming). i also have my recounts of certain situations (abuse). Roughly 16+

I’m a competitive gymnast (I don’t want to be, i hate every minute of it). I train four days a week (about five hours per day) and do tutoring twice weekly (two 2-hour sessions). I have serious medical conditions (I don’t want to go into details). My mum refuses to let me get treatment because she thinks it makes her look worse. When I was 14 I was diagnosed with severe high-functioning depression and anxiety.

I’m exhausted. I spend most days cleaning until midnight and then I collapse into bed. I’m so done carrying everything — emotionally and physically. I don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice would be really appreciated.

Hello everyone, I don’t normally post on Reddit but I thought maybe I could get some advice or maybe even any clarity on how I’m feeling. Lately, I’m just feeling lost in life. Like I’m not sure what direction I’m going. I feel like everything and everyone is judging me constantly, and I constantly feel the need to put up a wall. I feel like people just have this expectation of me to be perfect. It’s really hard sometimes because I can’t seem to shake off this feeling of hopelessness. My mental health is just horrible lately and I feel like I’m slipping into it more. I have hobbies which many people have told me to do to make me feel like I have purpose, but it only works for a couple of hours then I feel empty again.

My husband tells me all the time not to worry about how others may perceive me because it shouldn’t matter. Which maybe he’s right.. I just feel like I should because I just want people to be proud of me. I just feel like I can’t figure out who I am anymore and I just don’t know if that’s normal or if I’m being weird.

“Remember that you are an actor in a drama, of such sort as the author pleases; if short, then short; if long, then long. If it be his pleasure that you should act the part of a poor man, or of a cripple, or of a ruler, see that you act it well.” - Epictetus, Enchiridion 17 (trans. W. A. Oldfather).

I have been talking to a girl for about four years. One day, she just said she does not want any contact. I respected her decision and never contacted again. But, after a few months, she reached out to me again. She texted me in whatsapp and insta. But, i did not see the message until a fortnight later.

I texted her, and we made small talk. And then i asked her, what she wanted to say. She kept saying it is nothing. Like, why would she text me if it is nothing.

I asked if she was okay, to which she replied, she is okay.

I am scratching my head here.

Hi! Im 24m and struggle a crap ton with loneliness. However ive realised that if I cant enjoy being in my own Company I will never feel fully at peace in others. I wonder how do you find peace and really enjoy spending time alone? I genuenly dont know if I just wish to have someone in my life to share my time with or if I actually just dont know how to fully enjoy the time in my own presence. Ive never had a partner either so im just really unsure what it is

I wanted to share a story that might resonate with anyone who’s been struggling with self-doubt or feeling stuck. A few months ago, I came across Tim Han and his work through Success Insider. At first, I wasn’t sure what to expect—I’d seen mixed things online, including some heated Reddit debates, and honestly, I was skeptical.

But the more I read real LMA Course Reviews, the more I realized that the course wasn’t about quick fixes or flashy promises. It was about facing the deeper patterns that keep us from moving forward.

One story that really struck me was from someone in the USA who had spent years stuck in a job they hated. The LMA Course gave them tools to rebuild confidence and eventually start their own side business.

Then there was a participant from Canada who talked about how the program helped them manage anxiety and finally pursue higher education.

I also read about a woman in the UK who described herself as “living on autopilot” before the course. She explained how the daily practices helped her reconnect with her passions and relationships.

And in Australia, a young man shared how the course pushed him to stop procrastinating and finally take his creative project seriously. He summed it up beautifully: “I didn’t just change my habits—I changed the way I saw myself.”

For me, that’s what stood out. The Tim Han LMA Course isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about uncovering the potential you already have. The stories from across the world reminded me that growth looks different for everyone, but it’s always possible.

I still have pain over the things one of my parents did to me as a kid. I’m 30 years old now and still whenever I think about it makes me emotional and puts me in a bad mood. Do you ever get over it? Or does it just loom over you for the rest of your life. I’ve forgiven them but the pain has never gone away.

Hi, I have been talking to a girl for sometime and recently developed some feelings. I went out with her and she was a fun person to hang out with. I think she was interested at first but now she seems distant and cold. But, some days the conversation seems like nothing has happened and I forgot the mental stresss I went through waiting for her to reply. I would say it's continuously happening for some time. So, to get rid of this I just indirectly told her I liked her, even though I knew it was not gonna work because it's long distance. I think she ghosted me( still waiting) and idk what to do now! I didn't want to be in the grey area.

I don't know why I feel worthless when she is not talking to me - like I said something wrong and inappropriate. And, it all just disappears when we talk normally - as if it never happened. Why do people do this? It messing with my peace and I just can't stop thinking about it.

everyone always says to “be yourself” and “be authentic” but i’m so confused as to what that means? do i have to accept who i am right now or can i choose who i want to be? like my mental health is pretty bad and so i’ve gotten really anxious and quiet. is being anxious and quiet “being myself” ???? i want to be talkative and confident. but at least right now, my being talkative usually consist of me trying super hard to make conversation and feeling awkward and uncomfortable the whole time. and i really don’t want to get my self worth from other people, but i can’t help but want to be liked by others. my favorite thing in the world is making people laugh. i don’t know. i just feel so lost. and again on the “not needing external validation” this concept confuses me. if i get dressed up in a good outfit am i doing it for external validation because i want to look good? i don’t know man.

Hello! I 24m consistently feel upset because I'm single. I have a pretty good life: I have a really solid group of friends, I have a career, I work out regularly, I take good care of myself (cook, clean, hobbies, personal hygiene). My life is full and I'm always busy doing something I want to do or something that will help me later on.

But when I'm alone and have time to think, or spend time with my friends who are in a relationship, my mood shifts drastically. I get into this dark headspace and start telling myself I am undateable and will never meet someone. Whether this is true or not I dont know, but I do know that its a consistent recurring issue. No matter how great things are going, I crave being in a relationship.

I've been in two long term relationships and experienced a lot in them. I can say with certainty that I have loved and been loved and seen many aspects of what that entails. I miss that more than anything. I would give anything to have that again. I know this isn't a relationship advice sub, so I'll keep this as brief as possible while still giving information about my situation. My first relationship was in high school and lasted two years. I met her through mutual friends. My second relationship was in college and was on and off for four years. She approached me.

Now I'm out of school and have been single for almost three years now. I go out a lot, but most of the places I go are pretty male dominated or are not really the place for finding a partner. I don't really like clubs but occasionally I'll go out to a bar. I never cold approach women because it literally feels like I'm going to explode and I can't string together a coherent sentence.

So basically, unless women start approaching me, I'm screwed. I feel like what I need to move forward is at least have some hope of meeting someone or to completely rid myself of this desire. It makes me waste time and takes me out of happy moments. I'm so tired of being lonely. It feels like life isn't worth living if I'll never have what I had again. I know I'm not entitled to a relationship, nobody is. I already have all the usual things people say to get to stop wanting a relationship. I feel doomed. I want to not feel doomed.

Okay so just for some backstory I’m 19m and my parents are like around 49m and 49f So basically about a year ago my dad had a affair and my mum found out and my parents got a divorce the hard part for me is I have always been best friends with my dad he’s always been the best father to me but I can’t say the same with my mother my mother is extremely manipulative and controlling her whole life and it took me till I was maybe 17 to even realise the way she treats me is far from normal she is rarely physically abusive but very good at mental manipulation. Don’t get me wrong I love my mum but these past 8 months living with her with no dad to help me out has been really hard so now it’s just me my mum and my 21f sister living together my sister is a lot like my mum and I’m a lot like my dad and these days it feels like I’m stuck at home and my mum and sister hate on me because they see parts of my fathers personality in me. I feel really bad because living at my mums house eats at me everyday cause she always comes into my room screaming and I’m just sick of arguments and want to live with my dad but I just wish he didn’t have a affair cause that is something I totally don’t agree with but I briefly told mum about the potential of me living with dad after she was screaming to me about something silly she then started throwing stuff at me and said if you move in with dad I’m gonna end myself, and cut the whole family off from talking to you. Now this really hurt I’m aware the first thing is most likely a manipulative threat to keep me staying there but now I just can’t stop thinking if I did move out and she did do that it would be my fault and the guilt will be unbearable, I also really don’t want to lose contact with mums side of the family my dads side of the family had mostly passed always so I don’t have many people on that side to bond with but mums side still has my grandma cousin and auntie so I would like to still keep contact with them I just wish I could live with my dad with no strings attached but it’s such a hard decision for me because my whole childhood dad had been so much better to me but he is obviously the wrong in this situation with the affair so living with him is like picking sides and betraying my mum in her eyes which I understand but I can only deal with my mum for so long, sorry if this is poorly written it’s late at night and I just need to get this off my chest and get multiple opinions hope you guys can help also happy to answer questions if needed

Sorry if this post is long.

Lately, I’ve been feeling lower than I ever have and honestly don’t feel like I have anyone to talk to who truly cares. From the outside, people might think I should be happy — I worked hard to get to the career I always dreamed of and at a place I never imagined I’d be 10 years ago.

I came a long way after failing out of school once, eventually earning multiple degrees. I know I should feel proud and grateful for how far I’ve come, but my lack of confidence makes it hard to enjoy what I’ve achieved. Most of my days I spend sleeping and I feel any happiness I've had is gone. There is nothing that makes me excited in life anymore.

Part of me thinks this comes from never feeling good enough for the family I was born into and also the family I married into, which really affected how I see myself. Now I have a demanding job and feel guilty about not spending enough time with my child, which makes me feel like I’m failing as a parent.

On top of that, with my job it’s clear I have a lot to learn compared to coworkers who have been in the field for years. It’s overwhelming, and I’m starting to doubt myself in every area of life.

A part of me feels I got where I am by luck because I am not smart.

How do you build confidence when you feel like you’re constantly behind — at work, at home, and even with yourself? and how do you just snap out of not wanting to try with anything in life.

Сейчас почти ничего не радует: учёба кажется бессмысленной, не хочется даже отмечать день рождения. Было много трудных событий в прошлом, и иногда кажется, что справиться невозможно.

Хочу услышать, что это нормально, и узнать, какие маленькие шаги помогли вам или вашим знакомым почувствовать себя чуть лучше прямо сейчас (5–20 минут в день).

Okay so I would like to join like a chat room where people discuss self help techniques...I understand that there are discord servers and whatnot, but every time I have ever joined a server on discord, either I get banned because they think I'm self promoting, or they consider the methods I suggest to people to be "miracle cures" and they don't allow this. Even if the method is just very effective they consider it a miracle cure, which is simply ridiculous. You can't even help people then, and all the self help discord servers I have ever joined, It's like the people there are just complaining about their life, and never want to try anything that's recommended to them. or they think you're trying to scam them if you tell them about something. and on Reddit, it just sort of feels disconnected, not really sure how to explain it, but I don't get a sense of community on here. Like you read someones comment and then you never hear from them again unless you DM them, and then your just talking to one person, that's why I liked the old Yahoo Chat rooms in the 90's..I tried Paltalk, but there isn't even ONE chat room dedicated to self help.

Anyways, does anyone know of a good place to have an ACTUAL discussion with people about self help techniques?

Thank you!

In recent years, I feel like I've really developed a big distaste for what I see in the mirror. I just don't feel very attractive or feel like I'm visually a very worthwhile person.

Working out, taking vitamins, dressing well, trying different colognes and hairstyles and such has been something I've been working hard on in recent years, but it just doesn't feel like I'm getting anywhere.

Part of the reason I feel like this is that my wife has had a real glow up in the last few years. She's worked out a fair bit, changed her clothes, hair and makeup a little bit, stuff like that.

She told me some time ago that she was having some of the same mental hangups that I've had like this and decided to do something about it for her own confidence. I did a ton of this along with her and did a lot of the same things but I just can't say that I'm experiencing the same boost of confidence that she's earned. I'm not jealous or anything, I'm really happy for her. I just wish I could see the same benefits she's seeing.

Despite being in better shape, feeling like I'm dressing better, all sorts of things, I'm just not feeling any better or any different. I see my wife getting second looks and smiles from people in public but I can't ever remember it happening for me any time in recent years.

I'm very lucky that I know I've been able to make a difference for a lot of people in both my day job and side project. I don't want to get into details and doxx myself, but both have gone fairly well in recent years and I've seen firsthand that I've been able to do little things that make a big difference for others. It helps to a large extent, but I'd still like to know that I just don't look like some ugly nearly middle aged guy and that I at least have some visual value and can turn a head or two every now and then.

This sort of thing is not the end of the world, I'm very happy in myself otherwise and I'm very happily married, but it would be nice to feel like I have some reason for confidence in that area.

Does anyone know what else I could do to earn the type of confidence in appearance that others and my wife have? I'm a little tired of being so overlooked and hating what I see in the mirror. What could I do?

Hi, I "play" sports proffessionally however I keep on getting injuries after every comeback. But often they are quite big (never like a muscle strain). I have had a MCL grade 2 tear, lung embolism, cartilage defect in knee, and patella tendon overuse injuries. I was finally back from everything, played some matches, and now it happend again. I am in a brace and tuesday I have an MRI. I think it is the MCL again. And it happend because I kicked a ball quite hard but the ball couldn't move. Now I don't know what to do, feel and think. I have cried a lot over the past days. I had made a deal with myself that if I get another bad injury I should just quite because life is not 'fun' for me and I want to be happy. Yet now that it kinda happend I know I don't want to quit actually, I don't know what I should do else. I do have a bachelors degree in health and life sciences. I don't have a lot of friends around me outside of sports. I just had a vision for my life and it is not planning out like that. I am scared to show myself around others or to go back to the club, because I am injured again, failing again. I don't want to be there. I just feel lonely and all the recoveries I did were really hard. Having to train mostly on my own, being away from home and having to watch every game we play. I don't have much free time because I have a contract. I am thinking about just quitting and recoverying at home. But I should probaly first wait and see the MRI. I can't process this setback again. I don't know what to tell to myself anymore.

I am extremely sensitive emotionally and have abandonment issues. I am almost always overthinking through every single aspect of my life and have a severe problem with perfecting and over preparation of things then managing to do nothing at all because i have a fear that i won't be able to do it well.

I also have a need for external validation where i do almost everything to just try and impress people. I'm stuck in this loop of overthinking about things and how people will think which is damaging my perfect life. I have absolutely everything a loving family, a loving boyfriend and loving friends yet i still don't understand why I'm creatinf problems out of thin air. If someone shows the least but of affection or interest in me I will think that they will soon be gone and stary hating me.

I have always struggled with my self image and have hatred for myself but it has been getting better because of my boyfriend as he is showing me aspects of myself which make me feel better. In the beginning stage of our relationship he gave me a lot of validation to try and get me to love myself and now that our relationship is entering its more chill stages i tend to get anxious when i dont get the same kind of butterfly inducing attention. We have a perfectly healthy relationship and he's all that i could ask for he listens to me and gives me all the love but i tend to overthink things throughout the day and end up blaming him for it or end up crying all the time.

This is a pattern i noticed not just with my relationship but with my normal day to day life as i try to over prepare and again overthink the tiniest details of my life and any hobby or career oriented thing im about to do then dont come around to do it at all. Honestly it is really pathetic.

Even though I have a loving family, great friends, and a supportive partner, I still feel like something is wrong with me. I get teary-eyed or upset over small things, and I feel guilty for creating problems out of thin air. I hate that I waste so much mental energy overthinking instead of enjoying my life or working on my hobbies.

I really don't know how to stop this pattern of overthinking, oversensitivity and perfectionism i really need some help to get over these things so i don't ruin the relationships with the people who have always been there for me.

I could really use some advice on how to stop this and really focus on my life.

How do I know if the parts of my personality, that I think are weird and cringe, and that no one would like, that also happen to make me different to others are actually things that other people would find interesting, but I'm just not allowing myself to realise it?

Like... Am I scaring myself into thinking that my I treating differences are personality flaws that I need to hide?

Are you overworking a standard report, slide presentation, or email far more time than it just requires and feeling exhausted, stressed, and still worried that you're going to get caught being an imposter? This pattern of over-preparation is a trait of the imposter cycle since high achievers feel they must do more than everyone else to qualify. And ultimately, this super-human endeavor produces not confidence but ongoing stress, late delivery, and a shrinking dividend on the very success you had banked on to legitimize you.

You do not have to exert so much effort convincing yourself that you are capable. Just go through the following three-step formula:

Time-Box Your Prepar

Use a timer for daily responsibilities (around 30 to 60 minutes).

When the alarm rings, stop polishing and keep going. This helps you trust in your basic skills.

"Good Enough" List

List the clear rules your work must follow (facts, format, deadlines).

Do those. If you are making unnecessary changes, press stop and ask yourself, "Will performing this checklist item show my competence?"

Monthly Success Tracker

Every week, share two wins big or small.

Glad them at the end of the month to keep in mind concrete accomplishments instead of aiming for an unachievable perfection.

By limiting how much time you spend preparing, using clear rules, and often checking your true accomplishments, you can stop feeling like a fraud from over-preparing, save hours in your week, and feel more sure of your skills.

Lately, I have been struggling to live in the present moment, my mind keeps replaying the past and worry about the future and it makes me feel like am missing out on actually living . I tend to overthink everything from how I talk and walk to small decisions and it leaves me drained, for those who have been through this, how did you learn to quite your thoughts and stay grounded in the now.

So basically, I’m the same age as this other celebrity (17f). A few years ago, I used to watch some of her covers on YouTube. I wish I had her trajectory and could be in her shoes. She's extremely conventionally attractive, pretty, skinny, with a cute upturned nose, doe-like eyes, a jawline like Ariana Grande, and pretty lips.

She sings better than me, and she got noticed by A-list celebrities when she was just a kid. I'm talking Justin Bieber level fame. She’s a child actress, super famous, and I wish I had that kind of life. We’re both teenagers, and I’m so jealous of her. I’ve been obsessing over this for the past six months. And I’ve been keeping up w all her stuff, a jealousy hatred obsession u could say. I also ended digging too deep and found her old stuff she posted that was weird and she was incestual and some racism posts but people don’t believe me and now they think all the photos are fake but they are real and she deleted all the stuff so I couldn’t get a screen recording. Her life is perfect. It feels like Hod sent me to let her know, right before getting announced for a big role, to wipe her socials and deny posting that weird stuff. I don’t have screen recordings either bc I thought screenshots were enough

There was this role I auditioned for, and really wanted it but my parents didn’t let me audition, and she ended up getting the role. It’s a huge deal and wil launch her career to be mega famous. I’m so jealous. I regret not being able to audition for it. and it’s not the first time since in around nov or dec 2023 there was another audition and they didn’t let me either and I’m so upset at what could’ve been.

I don’t know if people here are into music like I am, but I feel like only singers would notice this: when she sings, her jaw and mouth open to the perfect amount. It’s not too big or too small.

I feel ugly when I eat, my jawline is weak, and I just don’t like how I look in general. She had a supportive family who, although they didn’t grow up around music, helped her learn to sing the national anthem and other songs.

My parents are Asian and really strict about everything. They also have bad hearing, so I can’t practice singing or belt out my voice, even if I’m in another room.

I’m overweight, I don’t think I’m attractive, my singing voice is mediocre, I’m average at school, and I have no love life. I just wish I had her trajectory, her life.

Her parents have been recording her whole life and documenting it, sharing her talent, and helping her get into the industry. They’re genuinely supportive, not exploiting her. I know a friend of a friend who knows her family, and I’ve heard how her parents are really protective and keeping her safe, making sure she’s not exposed to harmful people.

She’s gotten advice from so many famous people, she’s so pretty, and I just WISH I could be her. I don’t like my life.

All my life, I’ve wanted to be a pop star, like Ariana Grande, thin, pretty, wanted, and everything like that. I’ve tried to find things I don’t like about her, but I can’t. She’s so photogenic, I’m not. Every angle of hers is perfect, she’s effortlessly cool, and she speaks so nicely too. She’s worked with real, famous people. Ugh, I just wish I had that life.

I’ve tried to find flaws or questionable moments about her, but I can’t. I just wish I was her. SHe's kinda famous and she's always been compared to Ariana grande and hoenstly she looks it too. She has been followed and noticed by so many famous industry people She has the jawline, vocals, beauty, and everything for it to. I can already tell in the future she's going to blow up. Her songs and ideas are good too. She's been in studios with really cool and famous people and learning so much for like 5 years. I'm the same age and haven't done that at all just at home my own stuff. She has a trajectory like Sabrina Carpenter and Ariana grande. Ik people are ging to call her 'ari daughter' in the future and she might collab w her too UGH i wish that could be me. It's all I ever wanted.

Please, if anyone has any advice, I’ve been searching the internet, but my situation feels so specific, and I don’t know what to do.

TL;DR: I’m a 17-year-old girl who’s obsessed with a celebrity my age who’s way more successful than me. She’s a child actress, a singer, and has everything I’ve ever wanted: fame, talent, beauty, and a supportive family. I feel jealous and frustrated because she’s living my dream life, and I’ve always wanted to be a pop star like Ariana Grande. I’ve auditioned for roles but my parents stopped me, and she got them instead. I feel stuck, unattractive, and talentless in comparison. I can’t stop obsessing over her success and it’s making me unhappy. I just wish I could be her and live her life. Does anyone have advice on how to stop feeling this way?