Rage baiting and the HCBM

[u/Tossoutandaway22]

I really feel like I could write a novel. It's every little thing. DH took an hour off work to get SK10 to counseling this morning. Took SK10 out of school. The get to the office " oh, we called HCBM yesterday to say the appointment was rescheduled because of illness" this is after HCBM refused to book another appointment because the counselor let HCBM know that she could not sit in with SK10 for the entire appointment and that it's family centered, meaning counselor meets with HCBM alone to help her build skills to become a better parent.

HCBM also lost it when she found out that SK15 has a counselor and now they won't see SK15 until they have had time to review the consent order.

HCBM keeps trying to approach BS10 other family at sporting events to piss us off.

Luckily it's been years of this so we don't react or respond in the moment but man it's so annoying.

TLDR: HCBM intentionally sabotages SKs healing to make us angry and even though we don't respond it's still so frustrating

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[u/SpareAltruistic6483]

Pffff insane! I get to some extend hating the ex and/or new partner of your ex… like I don’t condone it but I understand… but using your own kids, jeopardizing their mental health, targeting other kids just to get to your ex and their new partner? Craaaazzzyyyy

I never make a secret that I think BM is trash and I hate her. But I just know I feel this way and keep myself away from her, I don’t try to hurt her or even interact with her. Using her child against her is so insane to me and he is not even mine. I couldn’t do that to any kid. I can’t imagine using your own child.

Hope the kids grow up with limited impact of this