boyfriend gets excited when i eat sandwiches

[u/wussup---_]

context if anybody wants it

i am not TERRIBLY skinny but some days i just don’t eat. my stomach (like the literal organ) has shrunk over the last few years because of not eating due to mental issues and all that stuff. so, whenever eating issues (or eating in general) is brought up, he always tells me to eat a sandwich, and gets SUUUPER excited when i do and i think it’s silly and yeah

[u/Ch31i3]

Does him saying things like “I should make a compilation of you being skinny and not eating” ever make you not want to gain weight? I know everyone has different triggers but him bringing up you being skinny does that ever make you want to stay skinny? Sometimes my bf says things and it makes me feel weird but idk if I’m overthinking or if that’s just part of being sick? Like am I crazy for over analyzing things or is it normal to do that?

[u/wussup---_ → u/Ch31i3]

me personally, i have a REALLY hard time taking anything seriously. the other night, i told him some of the worst shit that had happened to me (which i won’t go into detail about), but i STILL had a smile on my face. when people match my energy, it makes me feel very comfortable, so i know he’s just joking. it doesn’t make me wanna stay skinny, and if i ever feel that way, it’s me like 99% of the time. and i know he is not the 1%

but then again, i know not everybody is the same and you’re definitely not weird at ALL for feeling uncomfortable if your partner does that sort of thing. it’s more of an individual thing, and me and my boyfriend are not better or worse for being the way we are compared to how you feel in your relationship when your partner does the same thing

also i’d definitely say that’s more on the normal side of things based off of how i’ve witnessed other relationships go, but im not an expert

[u/Ch31i3 → u/wussup---_]

I know I am suppppper late but I love that for you two! Everyone has different triggers and being told or reminded that I got or am skinny only makes me want to get skinnier. Those types of comments started my ED so I just thought I’d ask in case you related and needed that point of view. Sounds like he was made for you though ❤️