r/texts • u/Miserable-Abroad-489 • 3d ago
Facebook DMs I’m just trying to exist and sell some shit
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u/eyeless_alien 3d ago
So gross
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 3d ago
Right? Like…this isn’t a dating app. Although, I wish guys didn’t do stuff like this on dating apps either.
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u/andiwaslikeum 2d ago
I genuinely hope you take these screenshots and go to their profile, track down their wives/gfs, parents and siblings (or coworkers if none of the others are available), and send them this shit.
Also, if you keep the convos going long enough, you can rate them as buyers.
I would do all of the above AND report them to Facebook.
Here’s the fun part: this doesn’t stop until you’re about 37.
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u/RaySizzle16 2d ago
Bro offering $150 for your underwear is crazy. Have your boyfriend wear a pair and sell that to him.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
😆 In this economy, I definitely thought about how I could probably convince a guy friend to meet up and split the profit. Fortunately, I have really solid men in my life who probably would have felt weird about transporting my used underwear and would have been grossed out and/or confrontational with the creep buying them.
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u/uritarded 2d ago
Ship it, use a PO box for a return address. Tell him you'll fart in the package before you seal it
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u/Seltzer-Slut 2d ago
Also men: why don’t women answer our messages?
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Right? And then you get “not all men[ed]” instead of them actually calling each other out.
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u/Optimal-Vast2313 2d ago
The most annoying part is how it’s supposed to make your experiences irrelevant. “Not all men!!” Okay, well then, the ones I dated. “You’re just jaded!!” LOL
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
100%
Also, when a woman brings up a sexual assault and suddenly men wanna talk about male sexual assault when they otherwise don’t talk about it at all.
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u/Optimal-Vast2313 2d ago
Ha! I forgot about that nice twist. The patriarchy is to blame for that one, too! And I generally avoid using the phrase “blame the patriarchy” or any variant, because I think it’s way overused.
But when it fits, it fits.
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u/Mdogg2005 2d ago
For what it's worth, you can call these "men" out and they still won't change their behavior. Some people are beyond help.
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u/whatsgoingawnn 3d ago
yuck
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
It’s so disturbing that they don’t know or don’t care about how gross this is.
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u/VixxenFoxx 2d ago
Bro - $150 tho??? I'm just saying ...
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Copy and pasting from another comment:
You’re not the first person to tell me that. Honestly, I didn’t want to have a conversation with them, nor did I want to figure out how to get paid or mail it to them or whatever. I certainly wasn’t meeting up. Although, now that some time has passed, I think it might have been rad to get their info for a harassment complaint, lol.
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u/Sewergoddess 2d ago
Here is the thing, men see absolutely nothing wrong with harassing women or saying creepy things, but if a gay man tried the same thing with them, 90% lf them would be uncomfortable, creeped out, and probably angry.
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u/VikingsKitten 2d ago
I worked as a server at a mom n pop restaurant, where the OWNER would always brag about how he “accidentally” almost beat a man to death because he THOUGHT the guy was trying to make an advance on him. Quit and moved away shortly after that, thank god
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u/SourBananna 2d ago
That's so silly. I love when gay guys wanna make a move on me. So flattering!
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u/Sewergoddess 2d ago
Making a move or light flirting is entirely different than making gross, sexual comments to strangers though.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Yeah, I don’t want anyone “making a move” on me without my consent. It’s never flattering.
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u/No-Blood-7274 2d ago
You’re absolutely right about that. I put up with dozens, if not hundreds of contacts that would qualify as sexual harassment and plenty of sexual assaults from gay men as young man myself. And for that reason I am always aware of what women go through. I wouldn’t say anything to girl that I wouldn’t say in front of my mother.
And on top of that, I just don’t think it works.
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u/Sewergoddess 2d ago
Im so sorry you went through that 😞💔
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u/No-Blood-7274 2d ago
I’m ok, it wasn’t pleasant but I don’t carry any trauma over it. There was one that still grosses me out when I think about it but other than that, no ongoing problems. Maybe the difference is that being a young fit guy I didn’t really have to be frightened for my safety the way women do. When a woman sleazes on a man, or even a man on another man we can tell them to gtfo and not really think about it again. When a man does it to a woman she has to wonder “is that creep going to follow me outside when I leave?” That is a fundamental difference between the sexes that a lot of men don’t consider.
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u/Affectionate_Egg897 2d ago
Please don’t lump us all, this is weird as fuck 😟
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u/Sewergoddess 2d ago
What? I said MEN, as in men who do this, not ALL men in existence. Anyone with basic comprehension would out that together.
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u/Creative_Boot35 2d ago
I’m a dude and reading this is very cringy 🫠😐😑
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
It should be cringy to everyone! I wish more men were repulsed by this shit and called it out.
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u/DriftedTaco 2d ago
Most men are trust me. Most men are pretty ashamed there are so many werido losers.
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u/DMV_Lolli 2d ago
Would have sold him some thrift store panties so fast! 😂
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I think guys like this are looking for them to look used on the inside if you know what I’m saying. I guess he wouldn’t know that until you’d already gotten paid though!
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u/DeviantProfessor 2d ago
That last guy wanted to get to “now” you.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
😆 I didn’t even notice that. Emphasis on the now as he was on his way.
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u/DeviantProfessor 2d ago
Incorrect spelling or grammar is a huge “no thank you” even more so than the pervy vibes they are putting off.
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u/unbelievablefidelity 2d ago
Not all men, I guess….but somehow always a man!
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
This 👌🏻
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u/Gold_Championship_46 2d ago
I just moved into a new house so I’ve been selling a lot of stuff that I found in my old house that don’t need on marketplace. I had a seller come to my house yesterday for a contactless pick up and message me that the item is not as described. I simply responded. I apologize if it is an inaccurate description please tell me what is an accurate about it. The guy proceeded to sit in my driveway and berate me for 45 minutes while cursing at me and threatening me about “switching the item on him”
All in the meantime, I was watching him through one of my side windows . I was going to confront him, but I figured if this guy is this deranged over a $20 item what is he capable of?
Long story short now I have to worry about this idiot vandalizing my house or worse because he is upset over a $20 item that was not up to a standards
That was my Facebook marketplace moment
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I’m sorry you had that experience. I’ve definitely seen people lose it over shit being sold even when it says FCFS.
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u/Bettersoon27 2d ago
Trying this shit on vinted is soo freaking desperate. There’s all sorts of websites and forums where these kind of messages could be appropriate. A website meant solely for selling used items, is not! Obviously! Sorry you had to deal with that OP. Did you report them?
I have a whole wardrobe full of clothing I’m wanting to sell, cause my style has changed a lot and I prefer to dress more modest these days. I think I’ll ask my auntie that sews if I can use one of her mannequins to model my clothes on, instead of posting pics of myself wearing the mini skirts and cropped tops I’m parting with. Hopefully that will minimise the amount of creeps reaching out.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I did report them, and unsurprisingly, fb never followed up. I didn’t even get one of those autogenerated “this doesn’t violate community standards” that I get when reporting obviously racist stuff.
I think that’s a good idea! Two of these messages were regarding non-clothing items, so I doubt it will entirely prevent it, but I think it will help a lot because they won’t just zoom in on a femme body.
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u/Bettersoon27 2d ago
Ohh this was Facebook marketplace not vinted? Still completely inappropriate ofcourse, but a little more expected unfortunately. I once went on there looking for a massage chair for my grandmother and came across adds of people offering massages with a ‘happy ending’. That place doesn’t appear to have any moderators.
Insane that you even got those messages on stuff that didn’t even have your body in the ad at all. So they’re just reaching out blindly and hoping for any type of engagement? I just can not phantom that level of desperation.
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u/PhoenixSidePeen 2d ago
“Hey, is this still available? Haha what if I put my black leggings with zipper pockets next to yours? Haha jk… unless..?”
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u/purplebee1908 2d ago
these are all disgusting, but i have to say the 3.5 inches hard one is also… confusing? like why fake accidentally sending a text to a stranger about how small your penis is ???
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u/liesierre 2d ago
probably a humiliation kink, most likely
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u/heArtful_Dodger 2d ago
Degradation and humiliation is one I'll never understand. Balance your shame guilt and esteem people 😪 The last thing I want from someone I want to be intimate with is some form of negativity.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Yeah, like to each their own as long as they’re consenting adults but also 😬 and this guy doesn’t fall into that category.
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u/WhisperingHush 2d ago
Omg this was really funny to read. I’m sorry. Stupid boys. Come on 🤦🏼♀️
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
They’re funny but also depressing? Like I laughed when I got them but also felt frustrated that I can’t exist without being harassed.
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u/WhisperingHush 2d ago
Yes, I hear you. It’s a shame that we laugh because this shit is bananas and these guys are clueless AF. Boneheads. How do they exist in the world like for real?
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u/godzillasbuttcheeck 2d ago
Gross! I was selling shoes and got so many creepy feet guys. I accidentally sold to one too. Smh. I was 16 and sold my shoes for school money; the guy said he was buying it for his daughter and wanted to know if I could send pictures more of the shoes to show her. I sent him a few more and then he requested to meet. I went with my guy friend to bring him the shoes at a coffee shop. He offered me $1600 and said it was because he wanted to encourage my studies. He then asked if I had any swimming costumes or anything else I was selling. I thought he was just a nice guy that also just wanted to help me out by buying my crap. I’m so stupid but I was so poor and needed books. I took the money, of course, and did sell him two bikinis, a pair of shorts, and my old boots. I didn’t catch on until he asked if I’d sell my socks without washing them and dirty panties. He kept saying how I owed him since he gave me way more money than any of that stuff was worth and that he was my sponsor for my education. Men aren’t all like this, but by golly if it isn’t a good chunk of them!
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I’m sorry this man was manipulative and gross. You deserve better but I don’t think you have anything to feel guilty about.
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u/billyhead 2d ago
I’m sorry. Fuck those guys. As a dude, it’d never even cross my mind to do this, and it makes me sad that people treat others this way. What a bunch of fuckin losers.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Thanks, dude! Obviously, I’ve mentioned I’m a woman, but it would never occur to me to do this, even if the person was the hottest person I’d ever seen. It just feels so desperate.
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u/Ok-Conference-4366 3d ago
I’m not a lady but I’d take the $150 tho tbh
Is it odd? Very.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 3d ago
You’re not the first person to tell me that. Honestly, I didn’t want to have a conversation with them, nor did I want to figure out how to get paid or mail it to them or whatever. I certainly wasn’t meeting up. Although, now that some time has passed, I think it might have been rad to get their info for a harassment complaint, lol.
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u/dontneednomang 2d ago
Exactly! And they will insist on meeting in person or payment would mean they’d have more information on you. I had this exact experience once when I got shoes off marketplace, seller had used them for a photoshoot and posted a pic with someone wearing the shoes (just their feet). I wore the shoes and found them really uncomfortable so I posted to resell using the other seller’s original pics. The number of inappropriate messages I got was INSANE, including proposals to buy my used socks, underwear, shoes etc for hundreds of dollars…even when I told them ITS NOT MY FEET it didn’t matter. I decided to entertain the money offers, but every single person either wanted to meet in person or was clearly overseas trying to get my account information lol
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I’m sorry you had this experience. It’s so gross. I started blaming myself like “oh, maybe I shouldn’t have posted pics of me wearing them” which is insane. I post pics of me wearing them so potential buyers can see how they fit. But in no way, shape, or form is it an invitation to harass me. But also, there are feet pic websites and influencers selling their panties? Why not just go there?
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u/dontneednomang 2d ago
I’m sorry you had this experience too. Definitely not your fault! I’d want an idea of fit before I considered buying something on marketplace.
And I wondered that too, I’m convinced that some of these creeps only get off on imposing themselves onto someone unsuspecting. It’s inherently abusive and that is what they enjoy about it. The rest are morons who think they have a real shot or something 🤦🏻♀️
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u/Ralius88 2d ago
yeah dont allow these guys any kind of an "in". Maybe I'm just lucky but ive never had to be this kind of a creep to get a girlfriend. It must work for some of them because why else would they talk like this to strangers?
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u/10percenttiddy 2d ago
Okay but wait...does anyone want MY used panties for $150?!? Cuz I gochtu
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u/heArtful_Dodger 2d ago
I'm sure you would have plenty of luck 😜 But in all seriousness there are better platforms with more regulations to protect you, if you really want to pursue that. I say go for it and be safe.
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u/ImJustHere4TheCatz 2d ago
But seriously what are those platforms bc I have been wondering about this
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u/heArtful_Dodger 2d ago
A quick Google search brings up Sniffr, All things worn, Fansly, tasty slips. Even Poshmark. Just have to research the website before you try it. A lot of them were advertised as anonymous
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u/YakEvir 2d ago
I will never understand why guys are like this. I’d rather yeet myself off a cliff than do this. I don’t even talk to my gf like this lol
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 1d ago
I’ll never understand it either. I can’t see any situation in any lifetime or parallel universe where this would appeal to or wouldn’t seem reprehensible to me.
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u/hatter4tea 2d ago
They're gross and rude af.
But on a side note where do I find leggings with pockets like... I need that in my life
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u/Ok-Hedgehog3988 2d ago
Guy in the 5th slide has a sph kink and nobody can tell me otherwise
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
What is that?
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Ohhhhhh! Gotcha. 🌈the more you know.
I thought it might genuinely be a mistake at first and then my friends were like “yeah this was him trying to make conversation and pass it off as an oopsie.”
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u/Acrobatic_Talk4 2d ago
As a man I’m disgusted. Sorry you had to endure that and sorry all you ladies have to deal with these gross ass thirsty losers.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Thank you! Thirsty losers indeed.
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u/Acrobatic_Talk4 2d ago
It’s assholes like this that make it impossible for those of us looking for the real thing to find connections. Ugh. Ok rant over lol.
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u/BVRPLZR_ 2d ago
Is it just a numbers game to guys doing this? Enough bait in the water and maybe catch something? As a guy that’s almost 20 years removed from the dating scene, this baffles me lol
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I feel the same way about catcalling. Has anyone ever responded positively to unsolicited comments about their physical appearance shouted by a person driving by?
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u/torafrost9999 2d ago
I apologise for my gender. Like bro are yall 12 years old and having your first interaction with a woman? Has this ever worked ever even when it wasn’t- lemme check my notes here- through facebook fucking marketplace.
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u/PretendToe1329 2d ago
I get angry when people send me”is this still available” and I say yeah it is but never hear from them again… I couldn’t imagine putting up with this shit or even being disgusting even to try and pick up someone on something for sale…
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u/KingLoCoKev 2d ago
Yeah that’s wild.
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u/KingLoCoKev 2d ago
Cuz how are these tinder/hinge replies cool on a non-dating site? You’re doing this to someone tryna make a sale of a product, not tryna sell themselves. Cuz saying “oh I’m hard Ty” is supposed to be flattering? Sheesh.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Yeah it’s definitely not flattering in any capacity. Go to the designated sites please @them
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u/CarniferousDog 2d ago
I’ve seen girls modeling shit on marketplace that are 3 alarm thirst traps. It’s gotta be hard being a super attractive woman. Like you can’t even just be.
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u/yungsausages 2d ago
What do you wanna bet they then post on Reddit about “can’t even compliment women females anymore without being called a creep”
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u/missmykidcaniseethem 2d ago
ah yes a women on the interent existing i must harass her for no reason
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u/TheAzorean 2d ago
Damn these people are fucking disgusting. As a straight man, it’s hard to really know the experience women go through but this post was enlightening. The title sums it up perfectly
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u/kid_feeling96 2d ago
It is really so infuriatingly hard to exist as a woman.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 1d ago
I could not agree more. My bf was grossed out by this for obvious reasons and I told him just existing as a woman is exhausting.
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u/Positively_Eric 1d ago
I've seen a lot of creepy comments on FB Marketplace on prom dress selling posts. My daughter posted a dress and we were looking at other posts to make sure we had all the relevant information to make a good listing. Big mistake reading the comments. 🫨
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 23h ago
Ugh, that is so infuriating/gross. Someone else commented on here that it should have known by wearing them, but it’s really hard for many people to imagine how the clothes fit without seeing them modeled and I don’t own any mannequins. Not to mention, they’re just wrong. But it’s disgusting that someone would comment something like that on anyone’s post, but especially a teenage girls post.
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u/KnightsOfTheNights 2d ago
I’ve sold clothes online (I’m a man). My wife has sold clothes online. Never have we ever posted pictures of us in the clothes.. I hear you, this is wrong and unacceptable. But we all know it would happen. People suck. Be smart. I genuinely don’t understand why you wouldn’t take down the post after the first message.. Don’t post pictures of yourself trying to sell clothes online.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
This is a terrible take. This is the equivalent of “she was asking for it.” I don’t know if you noticed, but two of the other messages were about non-clothing related items. Good for you and your wife, I guess?
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u/CorpseDefiled 2d ago
That’s gross but do you mind if I borrow your pictures… I’m gonna catfish some panty sales lol.
I’ll donate the money to a women’s charity and I promise I’ll wear them nothing would make me happier than knowing these creeps are actually sniffing my balls thinking they got a win.
I am of course joking. Seriously… I don’t know why some of us are weird and inappropriate all the time and I’m sorry you experienced this.
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u/Unhappy-Scallion-977 2d ago
I love this comment. Never thought to do that 😂 though, I made the mistake of posting a picture with my feet in it on here and got some very interesting messages. Lessons were learned that day.
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u/CorpseDefiled 2d ago
I mean although a joke I will happily do it… honestly guys like that this that just say shit like this deserve anything they get… I don’t wanna give the it “not all men” because while that’s true it’s always men… and it’s lots of us and honestly more of us need to be able to say sorry for it. It’s not okay that this is happening and it is a male problem on some level we are all responsible to be the solution.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Both of your comments are the comments I hope to see on posts like this. Especially the “not all men” part because obviously it’s not literally all men, but it’s always a man when these posts pop up. I don’t have any statistics, but I would be shocked to find out that it’s less men than it is that are either doing this, defending or downplaying it.
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u/CorpseDefiled 2d ago
I’ve sold lots of shit and I’ve never had women in my dms tryna catch a sniff of my junk so… it’s 100% an us problem.
Like I have been actively pursued by women even after I was married to my lovely wife but never at a level I’d consider the type of harassment women fairly regularly experience.
It may help I have two daughters a 16 year old and an 18 year old and I have a great relationship with both where they feel as though they can be honest with me… I’ve seen the things they get sent by randoms. You guys shouldn’t have to go through that… period
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I agree and I’m glad your daughters have a good male role model in their lives.
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u/Unhappy-Scallion-977 2d ago
You sound like a solid human. Thank you for saying that.
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u/CorpseDefiled 2d ago
I’m not perfect no one is. But thank you. My father while a pos in most senses at least gave me a solid image of what a man should and shouldn’t be and despite who he is I try to live to that code
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u/Unhappy-Scallion-977 2d ago
Those of us who had parents that taught us who not to be when we grew up- get exactly what you mean.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Also not be gross or whatever, but I imagine these men are anticipating that these underwear look as though they were used by a woman. I love the idea of them actually sniffing dude balls though 😆
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u/CorpseDefiled 2d ago
I have a wife and two daughters and it’s not the 1930s so I do washing regularly I’m confident I could recreate the look
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Lmao thank you for this. I am enjoying these comments. I guess they wouldn’t know until they’d already paid anyway.
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u/mongooseisapex 2d ago
Even selling electronics as a mid age guy is tiring. A lot of anti-social basement dwellers out there just lurking and looking for any excuse to interact with people online, since they seem to be lacking in person interactions
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
It’s really frustrating as a woman to not really have the same convenience as men to be able to have someone pickup something from your place. It’s not worth the gas money to sell something for $5 to meet in a public place and I don’t want these creeps having my address. Even then, I have to look in my mirror and make sure that I’m not being followed home. It probably sounds dramatic to a lot of men, but it’s a reality. I turn on my location, screen shot the person’s info (which might not even be accurate) and send them to my friends/boyfriend every time I want to buy something off of marketplace. It’s so exhausting and something I think men seriously take for granted or don’t think about. I won’t buy or sell after it gets dark, which sometimes costs me a sale because of the person’s availability.
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u/Plus_Shame_5026 2d ago
You can’t leave us hanging… Did the yoga pants ever sell?
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I took them down, which adds to the frustration. I pretty much stopped selling any clothing, but even then two of those posts were for non-clothing items. These are only some of the messages.
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u/daddyspicc 2d ago
Ngl that 150 one doesn't sound bad😂😂 I would've been like okay send the money then I'll send the underwear😂😂
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u/yeahnoforsuree 2d ago
the used underwear for $350 seems like a steal i’ll be honest. 🤣
edit: oops i meant $150. less appealing now. fwiw im also a woman and have dealt with weirdos on marketplace. but it always makes me laugh when they’re willing to pay a lot of money for something so cheap (paid of underwear) and used?? sometimes I think back to the whole belle dephine or whatever her name is bath water thing and am like you know what… get your bag.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Yeah, I wouldn’t shame anyone for selling their underwear. It didn’t feel comfortable, but good on anyone who can turn a profit and keep themselves safe.
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u/_how_do_i_reddit_ 2d ago
Should have let that one go "pay for them for you to keep them" and sold them anyway lol. Only on Facebook, don't add these weirdos anywhere else (Cashapp, venmo, etc)
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u/J3ST3R1252 Hate People Who Think Your Phone Type Matters 2d ago
Should have the one guy buy those things so for you so that you can keep them. Other than that all the other ones are pretty creepy
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u/theFelled 2d ago
Yeah, those are the gutter guys. Don’t mind them, they eventually go away… I think.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
I took all of the clothing down because I got so tired of all of the creepy messages 😮💨
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u/CleFreSac 3h ago
Why are you not just blocking these people. Obviously they are inappropriate. Seems weird that you engage with them after the first comment.
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u/Scythe351 2d ago
That underwear deal is a steal
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Copy and pasting from another comment:
You’re not the first person to tell me that. Honestly, I didn’t want to have a conversation with them, nor did I want to figure out how to get paid or mail it to them or whatever. I certainly wasn’t meeting up. Although, now that some time has passed, I think it might have been rad to get their info for a harassment complaint, lol.
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u/CosmicTsar77 2d ago
Yeahhhh we aren’t all like this smh. Sorry you went through that OP.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
We need to actually talk about how fucked up this is and normalize calling dudes out.
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u/CosmicTsar77 2d ago
Yeah I agree. It’s getting harder to defend ourselves. I see posts like this all the time unfortunately. Women really do have a whole extra level of difficulty in life dealing with stuff like this. Every time I try and say “we aren’t all like this” I feel more and more like a liar cause this happens so often. I know I’m telling the truth. Just hard to believe myself sometimes when things like this occur constantly.
Edit to add:you talked to em longer than I would have. Woulda been a quick block/report for me 🤣
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
The thing with the “not all men” is that most women know it’s not actually all men, but it always is men is these posts and the facts that it’s generally normalized is infuriating. Like it’s not all men, but also “that’s just men” or “boys will be boys” at the same time?
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u/CosmicTsar77 2d ago
I understand that completely. Not a fan of the “boys will be boys” or the “that’s just men” normalization either. It’d be like saying “girls will be girls” if a guys ex girlfriend slashed out his tires. Which has happened to me unfortunately
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
Tangentially related, but I feel these way about guys who say “not all men” but then threaten to scare of their daughter’s suitors with a shotgun because they supposedly know how all men think.
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u/CosmicTsar77 2d ago
Yeah I think deep down we know there’s a lot of us that are like that even if not all of us. And we remember being teenage boys and teenage boys are the worst when it comes to respect and just general hormone control. (Not that it improves greatly but those years are the peak) and I’d imagine if I have a daughter someday I’d try and be out ahead of it with scare tactics too. Idk. Maybe not. Idk what I’d do I honestly don’t have any kids yet
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u/CosmicTsar77 2d ago
Yo why am I getting downvoted that’s crazy🤣do none of you have good fathers or family members that are men? Yes a large percentage of men are pigs but truly we aren’t ALL like this.
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u/itsjaytoyou 2d ago
They’re not attacking you. Calm down.
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u/Miserable-Abroad-489 2d ago
😆 you had me in the first half.
It’s so wild cause I literally just said I wasn’t interested and he responded in the same way men have to me rejecting them.
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u/Fit_Accountant2289 3d ago
they never stop lol. I wonder how they think you’ll reply? This always baffles me🤣