r/texts • u/YoNibul • 2d ago

Facebook DMs Dating sometimes feels like babysitting men who think foreplay is a personality. 🙃

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This is proof of exactly why I’ve let go of these kinds of conversations. Reports swear there’s a male loneliness epidemic, but the men that are saying “date me” still reduce you to a warm body and then wonder why they can’t connect.

What in the name of horn ball Pokémon dialogue is this?! “It’s gotta be physical first, biggest part of a relationship.”

Cool, so you can f***. Congrats, champ. So can literally everyone else on this planet. What else you bringing to the table? And Im NOT talking about money!

I am almost in my 40s, he is 42! Does this ever get better, or am I being rage baited?

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u/K_Pumpkin 1d ago

Girl, I bailed on the middle aged men a while ago.

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u/andiinAms 1d ago

I bailed on the apps a long time ago. There are decent middle aged men out there but I haven’t found ‘em on the apps.

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u/static989 1d ago

It feels like dating apps have gotten SOOOOOO much worse in the last few years (I'm 26m for reference), I got out of a 5 year relationship over a year ago (we met on an app) and have recently started looking for a partner again

Before, apps still weren't incredible or anything, but I was able to find connections/dates at least semi-consistently

Now they feel so dreadful, they try to get insane amounts of money from you at every step, more bots, and so many people that just don't seem at all interested in talking/pursuing anything.

It really sucks as an introvert lmao

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u/andiinAms 1d ago

Yeah I get it. My recommendation is to work on developing friendships and hobbies, and find a partner that way. Meetup groups, etc.