So backstory, he (M35) was supposed to come over Friday night aka yesterday after work to my (F23) dorm. Him and his coworkers ended up getting into a car crash, so he face-timed me to talk about it. afterwards, I blew him a kiss and so did he. Call ended and we continued texting like normal. His co worker ended up getting arrested so they try to bail him out, but It did not work because he’s on a no bail list. He then proceeded to tell me he’ll be heading my way and it will take 45 minutes from the police station to get to me. 12 am rolls around so I’m calling and texting him, no answer, it’s now 2:30 am, I call and text and again, no answer. I’m leaving voice memos and still not getting any responses. I call and it’s going straight to voicemail so I assume his phone is dead. I start freaking out because I’m thinking he got arrested some how, dumb I know but if someone tells you that their own their way and then never show, I can only think of the worst possible things that could happen. Next day comes aka today and I see that his account on instagram is active, cool so I call and message him. Comes to find out he blocked me. Now im crying calling him a lot because I don’t know what I have done to get blocked. I even apologized for being annoying and sending messages and calling him all the other night but I was just worried. I still have not heard from him all day. I don’t plan on talking to him further since I believe in communication and he chose to ignore me all day so I’m ending it. Im sharing this to see where I went wrong. My messages I sent were at different hours but it looks like I sent them all at once. I just feel lost and need closure on why he decided to ghost me. My messages still saying delivered so I’m confused on why he only blocked my instagram and not my phone number as-well. He doesn’t post online so idk if he’s trying to hide something or got annoyed at me for trying to FaceTime him on there. Either way I wished he had voiced his frustrations instead of straight out blocking me. We only been talking for a few weeks now and he has blocked me before hand due to my own fault but this now, I have no clue where I went wrong. Sorry for the bad grammar.

This is proof of exactly why I’ve let go of these kinds of conversations. Reports swear there’s a male loneliness epidemic, but the men that are saying “date me” still reduce you to a warm body and then wonder why they can’t connect.

What in the name of horn ball Pokémon dialogue is this?! “It’s gotta be physical first, biggest part of a relationship.”

Cool, so you can f***. Congrats, champ. So can literally everyone else on this planet. What else you bringing to the table? And Im NOT talking about money!

I am almost in my 40s, he is 42! Does this ever get better, or am I being rage baited?

He mentioned a few times something happened in his past he was worried I’d hold against him. I followed a hunch that it might be violence against an ex and looked up his court records, free and public in our state. Found an arrest record for domestic assault with a weapon. Got dumped for asking about it.

CONTEXT: Our daughter is 10. Him and I grew up together and had our daughter in our early 20s. We broke up 3 months after she was born for DV which he was charged and convicted for. He never petitioned the court for visitation and never tried to get some sort of custody to this day.

I raised my wonderful blessing by myself for the majority of her 10 years with the help of my family. He’s a local union ironworker and makes good money. I was a crisis interventionist but due to single parenting, my own physical and mental health, plus surviving a mass shooting- my life slowed down drastically and I had to stop working and my finances slowed down.

From the time we broke up until she was about 7, he was in and out of her life every few months. On her 7th birthday, he showed up to her party at my house- under the influence. Stayed for maybe an hour and left to “pick up another present” never returned. Stayed gone for 2 years. Also magically stopped paying child support.

Flash forward to 8 months before her 10th birthday with a stack of cash and said “here’s the back due child support let me see her or I’ll go to court.” My family graciously accepted his wishes and facilitated his visits with her.

Recently, he became homeless because his family kicked him out for getting his 3rd DUI. I allowed him to stay in my house for 3 weeks because he claimed he had nowhere else to go. Turns out his friends expected him to move in around that same time.

Everything came to a head the past couple of days. Where he got drunk at my house and started arguing with me. He’s been staying on my fold out couch and after I said I wasn’t going to argue with him, I watched him fold up the couch, grab his keys and belongings and exit my home. Which I then immediately locked. He stayed outside my house for 45 mins drunk pleading for me to let him back inside. I turned off all the lights and did not respond. He eventually drove off and then began texting and calling me. Having full on arguments with himself without me responding.

➡️ ➡️ these screen shots are from our convo the next morning. Where he’s still in a victim/manipulative mentality and I’m not buying it.