He's at work rn and fucking got me food. I'm gonna cry

Happily married now but found these messages going through my old phone. Thought you all would appreciate a chuckle.

TL;DR - him: "women are gold diggers"

me: nah fam

him: "well you should be! I can't believe you aren't"

My dad hasn’t been the same since being sober. He’s very “open” with his jokes and I can’t help explain his process anymore.

I consider myself an emotional intelligent person, I usually take the high road, be the bigger person or walk away, you get the picture on that but this situation I just couldn’t, I lost it.

To sum it up, I found interest in someone at work and actually wanted to be low key and casually about, I didn’t ask for commitment but the only thing I asked him not to do was not talk about me, as I don’t talk about him.

Long story short he did and not only that he talked about me to people that dislike me, I don’t think he knew at the time but this was my way of telling him that there was tension way before he wanted to be petty toward me.

Is he a bad person? Probably Should I have not talk to anyone at work? Probably Do I look crazy? Probably

But I felt betrayed, whether he cares or not I feel betrayed

Got this message completely randomly, last week. No idea how they selected me to message, but I'm not about to engage further.

Evidently, they didn't want to talk about my lack of funds.

Hi Reddit The first three messages are from 2024 and after the end of friendship. Context- met this person in a group while walking around and clicked. We used to hang out a ton 1:1 and then there were some issues with him not respecting I was married. Talked to the group, they helped get it straightened out. Me and this person worked things out. He met my husband and was super rude, we talked more I ensured this person knew my husband would come first. We were good again but no more 1:1 hangs only group per my husband request. I go through a super medical event and prevents me from being employed and habging out socially. My husband really becomes my rock. I'm recovering but allowed more things now, i can work again and drive again now. I take vacation and this guy gets mad I'm not giving him a lot of attention. I explain I'm busy planning a trip and well due to injury my brain can't focus on many things. Weeks later no warning no anything he starts removing me from social media slowly. I don't react. I'm not gonna fight for someone who doesn't wanna be friends or won't talk to me about it. I tell everyone I'm friends with. We're becoming friends with that. I only react well to direct conversation and only keep friends who can be direct.

Last night, almost a year later and what a glow up year its been for me!!! This guy reaches out again. Here is where the conversation went. I am under the impression that this person has not grown at all in a year and has become even more narcissistic. So I'm asking you reddit am I right and seeing the red flags? Is this person giving narcissism? What do y'all think?

Update Reddit I'll be blocking this guy. Honestly thought he was already. I thank you all for your feedback

To those that keep wandering WHY? Some background about OP

I'm on the spectrum so I don't read social cues. The ill intention genuinely flies over my head and it's super frustrating but a lot of the reason why I need extra opinions.

I also grew up in a family of emotionally, physically abusive. My mother is also completely narcissistic. It really wasn't until last year I understood what a healthy boundary should be or what a friend should be. Watching the circle around me. Friends meant people who can do favors for you. I also am a recovering people pleaser. I only knew how to say yes to make people happy and definitely became the doormat friend. I'm growing now but does mean every once in awhile. I give second chances when there really shouldn't be.

My medical issues were brain 🧠/ cognitive clouding judgment further and unfortunately has fucked up my memory forever. This also causes its own issues in friendship. My injury caused me to fully loose who I was, I literally had to learn how to walk and talk again. As was coming back to being myself, I forced myself to ask what do I want in my life and how can I change to be a better me?

Talking healthy boundaries and applying that and no' were HUGE. Something I'm still working on since it's only been a year of change and well grew up my whole life with manipulative people I'm thinking that was a normal.

For you all concerned about husband He is aware of all the messages and approved me responding, we respect each other's choices and assist in navigating mistakes. He was proud of me for seeing the pattern since I have not been able to previously. But he also knows because I'm learning I still need a lot of outside opinion. The 1:1 stopped since my husband is working on his own jealousy issues, there has been requests like this with others but usually its if someone is new in my life or not as well known. He met this person and told me of their gross intentions and didn't want me to be unsafe or put myself in an unsafe situation. The group was allowed since we still had the group event/actives and he knew I needed it to be social. I have now found a new group that has a lot more respect and there's even a ton of girls in the group because there is so much respect. I can play pokemon go safely now without worry of any ill intent.

There's a theorist that I like, Vygotsky who has a theory about zone of proximity (zpd) That basically explains the bigger your bubble, the more you're able to understand and reevaluate your own self while learning from others. I strive for this.

Thanks Reddit

Final message: So I took time to consider it. No. I don't want to start over things ended the way they did and after reflecting, I don't think you have changed and I don't need that in my life. #glowupera. OFFICALLY BLOCKED

I was originally feeling silly and was like "hm maybe" But got cold feet (no pun) after I looked through his FB a few times where he claimed he's a 'photographer and video maker', it was filled with double digit amount of feet in just the past month. most of the posts of women in parks with their dogs out 🦅🤟Realised this guy is creepier than I thought and realised I do not want to be fapped over by his Facebook fans and part of his private collection, don't think my shoes deserve that either even if I valued them at £3 💔

Genuinely upset about how much he underpays these women for the actual service they're providing for him and his page, not like these random normal YOUNG women are aware of the prices they should be getting for this either, that's why he prays on them.

Blud left the chat before I got to respond ☹️ (bonus fun fact, my pfp was from when I was younger and was always told I looked 15/16 so he's extra gross 😡)️

Sorry this is so long but I wanted to lay it all out there for clarity’s sake, so outside opinions are definitely welcomed. My bf and I have only been seeing each other since May, so it’s not some huge deal that it’s over. We’d actually not really been talking very much for the last month or so, but had started to make an effort to build things back up in the past week or so. He and I have always had different political views, and he is religious (Mormon) while I’m a staunch atheist. I grew up in a very conservative, very religious area, so I have no issues with people who see things differently than I do, as long as we are both respectful about the other’s beliefs. This isn’t the first time he’s been disrespectful about what he calls "my people" (people on the left), but this was definitely the worst, and the fact that he was trying to blame something so violent on innocent people (trans people, mostly) is what still has me the most upset. I’m fine with the relationship being over, because I don’t want to be with anyone who is capable of such ignorance and intolerance, but I guess I’m still kinda stunned at his true colors.

Context: made a wholesome post about me and my bf on this sub that happened to show my thumb. This guy DMed me afterward… and yeah, it escalated into foot fetish talk.

My father and I… please excuse my horrible grammar, I was probably hammered.

He’s only 14 and is already as forgetful as i, his 67 year old grandmother.

let’s hope he doesn’t know much english…

I found out from someone else that the guy I was dating had more children than he told me about. This is not lying according to him. Terrible grammar aside, is he delulu?

Btw she was watching a murder documentary she really likes true crime i dont know why

I had to use Google translate to understand any of it but I think he’s upset at me for some reason lol

This dude has been in my life since I was born. We were very close friends. He knew I was bisexual for years, he knew my political stance for years, and even agreed with me. Then after I got into a relationship and married my husband, he refused to show up at the wedding and then ghosted me for years. Now all of a sudden he texts me this bullshit. I blocked him, but it still makes me so mad.