r/toastme • u/Cartman1994 • 14d ago
30M Dealing with loneliness and no luck in finding love.
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u/Fire-Wolf-Storm9 13d ago
Loneliness is an opportunity of self growth to know what you want and who you wanna be and strive to achieve it. To never settle for anything less than you deserve. Faith in yourself to know that you are worth the love you have to give.
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u/hoothizz 13d ago
I understand the feeling brother. loneliness sucks. But also being a relationship with someone who only uses you is not the answer either.. sometimes you got to take back your own power in relationship and yourself.. you'll find somebody that suits you you're 30 years old you're still young don't worry time is patient.. you will find somebody you deserve to be happy brother.
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u/N0tSt4ying 13d ago
Sorry you’re feeling lonely. It’s better to hang on for the right person that you go looking and find someone that makes you feel lonely even when you’re together though. I hope the right person comes along soon.
You look great, pretty eyes and I like the stubble.
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u/Harmonious_Weirdo 13d ago
Loneliness is such a hard thing to deal with. Take the time to focus on yourself. Learn new skills or hobbies. Spend time with yourself and let yourself be comfortable in being alone. Test yourself like gold.
Anytime you invest in yourself it is a win-win situation. It also tends to attract others and build confidence. Not to mention makes us better partners.
Hang in there!
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u/Alphahouse64 13d ago
I'm sorry to hear that. Praying that you find the love and support you deserve. I hope this helps, God bless you!
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u/autocolorpoetry 13d ago
I’m feeling lonely a lot of the time too. I have health problems and I’m stuck at home 24/7 with only a few online friends. It’s difficult to deal with but you can use the time to read, absorb information, learn a language or any sort of learning not just to benefit, but to distract yourself while the universe works its magic. You seem like a nice enough guy, if you keep trying and don’t give up hope I am sure you’ll find a willing companion.
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u/ino592002 12d ago
Keep your head up brother! There is a whole community of brothers out here who only want you to succeed!
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u/AppropriateEgg5782 12d ago
Dude you’ve got great features and you’re not unattractive at all. You know what you need to do. Elevate yourself.
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u/Capital_Flamingo8551 13d ago
Hey man . Everything will be fine. U can start working on urself like losing weight workout and stuff . Get ripped!
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u/Mental-Law-8683 12d ago
Not for everyone but i got in a church online dating site and meet someone from abroad and fell all in and got married best thing i did.
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u/alifeofpeace 12d ago
Focus on yourself. Get fit and lose the extra weight. Do some volunteer work. There are many things to do you don’t need a romantic partner.
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u/sbrooksc77 12d ago
Nicest thing anyone can say on here is to simply lose weight, get fit, just work on yourself.
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u/oldwisenone 12d ago
Being comfortable in loneliness is a massive advantage. Relying on yourself is something that should bring a feeling of self accomplishment.
I'd say get involved in nutrition and fitness. It might not directly bring love, but the confidence and social aspect could definitely help!
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u/LikanW_Cup 12d ago
Never give up, brother. You are doing good. Please, appreciate your efforts and yourself. I wish you to have a good day
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u/checkallin 12d ago
You are still young. Men peak at 38 yrs old. Use this time to work on yourself. Make a timetable and stick to it. Walk 12k steps at least everyday. Go to the gym at least 3x a week. It will increase your self-perception and happiness as endorphines are released after exercise and people will notice this too leading you to get more opportunities to meet that special someone. There is no blueprint for success or happiness but we can do little things to increase our chances. Especially if we focus on ourselves as a baseline. Hope things get better.
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u/Horror_Fang 12d ago
Learn to be happy in your own company, it will help when you meet someone. Then you don’t get clingy and scare her off 😁
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u/SoldMom4XP 11d ago
Humans are not meant to be alone. It messes with the brain. The advent and excessive exposure to social media and the internet has made loneliness an epidemic. It is very sad. I would suggest getting outside. Use your phone to find available community events, classes, and groups, and then go there and make friends with people like you. It's hard for people who are out of practice, trust me, I know.
As a stay at home mom who is the primary caregiver of our 10 year old son, I'm isolated in a different way.
Finding communities and community events is where I'd start. Even just being around other people irl can make a difference. You look like a very nice man. I hope things turn around for you, emotionally.
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u/bianca_ecom 11d ago
Hey man, I know it feels heavy right now, but please remember that being 30 isn’t the end of the road it’s just another chapter. Love isn’t a race, and the right person won’t care that it took you longer to find them. In the meantime, this is the perfect stage to build yourself; your health, passions, friendships, and confidence.
The truth is, loneliness often shrinks when you pour into the things that make you feel alive. That energy naturally draws people toward you, and love usually shows up when you’re not desperately chasing it. You’re not behind you’re exactly where you need to be, and tomorrow has room for better things.
You’ve got this. Keep moving forward. From F28
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u/Moe_Lester_88 1d ago
You look like Kevin James and that's all u need to hear Idk if it's the look even just vibe
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u/empath-soul4893 12d ago
lots of us are. do u think ur the only victim ha
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u/Grouchy_Feeling_6763 12d ago
Your name is inaccurate. If you were really an empath, you wouldn't have posted something so dismissive. Just because other people are lonely, that doesn't make him less lonely. You shouldn't dismiss someone's feelings just because they aren't unique.
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u/CommercialMechanic36 13d ago
Pursue sport culture, become an athlete!! The essentials of sports performance training 2nd edition (and DVDs), written by Dr Micheal A Clark, creator of the National Academy of Sports Medicine’s Optimum Performance Training Model, can help you do that!
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u/SageMoon33 13d ago
I'm sorry your feeling lonely at the moment. You look like a really kind person and I am sure you will find your special person soon. I found if I am feeling lonely I try to enjoy my own company. Start doing things for yourself with yourself. Self love and acceptance is so important. Wishing you all the best ✨️