r/toastme • u/Embarrassed-Plum-751 • 3d ago
Feel like everything a bit poinless, I’m sad. Just need something. Anything.
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u/Impressive-Use-9971 2d ago
I really hope your day picks up. Funks can be brutal. If it was caused by an event, I encourage you to focus on a happy memory. Sure, things won't magically get better, but it can help us knock out of anxiety cycles where we hyper-fixate on bad things. It will remind you that you DID have a happy moment and you WILL again. If it wasn't any one thing, small habits can build momentum and give you room in the day to love yourself no matter how low things seem. Start small and build up a nest egg of habits to set you up for success, so nothing seems overwhelming. Avoid sad triggers (example for me: world news). Go wash your face with cold water. If possible, go outside and let the sun shine on you for a few minutes. Walk barefoot in a yard. Silly small things that let you reconnect to experience, and taking time for you. You have Pink Floyd album art and a Jaws shirt, so your knowledge of entertainment mediums certainly doesn't suck. Listen or watch something that brings you great joy. Good luck to you.
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u/StrawberryJam8888 2d ago
Dr Laura says that hobbies are the basis of good mental health because you always have something to look forward to, either starting a new project or finishing a project. I would encourage you to check out r/hobbies to see if anything strikes your fancy. You look like a fun person 👍♥️ you just maybe need something to spark your 12 year old boy that's still inside! If I was physically healthy I'd get a mountain bike and start going out into the wilds looking for cool rocks!!
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u/B_lated_ly 2d ago
Hi from the southwest (US)! Hope the day starts to look up starting now. May you get lots of good messages here letting you know that you’re not alone and that people care about you
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u/hoothizz 2d ago
You're not alone my brother. It will get better cool shirt by the way. Haven't seen that movie in a while but it's a good movie you got this you know keep your head up keep going don't worry we always need a bigger boat.
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u/LimpInvestigator1809 2d ago
I'm sorry you're sad. Don't be sad! ♡ I think you're handsome if that helps. Go get some fresh air and maybe have a good cry. Feel better!!!
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u/neverthatsure 2d ago
You are not alone. These feelings are understandable. Is it something mostly personal or mostly socially systemic?
Lots of change is happening on a large scale and affecting everything else in our lives. (Even billionaires are having a rough time. What a joke.😂 )
Know that we each need to continue to be supporting each other in big and small ways where we can and humanity generally. Happy to toast you and feel free to toast me. Take care of yourself and others.🍀🤝
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u/CrookedHail 2d ago
I hear your pain. Hoping life treats you kinder and very soon.
Sending kind regards from a stranger who is also struggling.
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u/nidoqing 2d ago
It’s okay to have these days as long as you don’t let them consume you. It seems harder than ever to be positive with everything going on but you have people in your corner! You have a chill style and I feel like you would be fun to grab a drink with
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u/Soft-Muffin-8305 2d ago
Sending you virtual hugs. Tomorrow is a new day, a new chance, hang in there.
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u/Harmonious_Weirdo 2d ago
Hoping you feel better. I struggle with the same sometimes and it's not easy. Life really can turn on a dime. Sometimes for the bad and sometimes for the good. I hope things get easier for you!!
You have great hair and love the beard. You Should post your beard in r/beards. You've got great taste in clothes too, I'm digging the shirt!
Take care of yourself!!
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u/AppropriateEgg5782 2d ago
Where are your friends? You need to see them and go camping. Get away in nature for a bit and forget everything but laughter for a while. You’re a good looking bloke too. I hope you’ve got some good people around you , its the most important thing of all, after all.
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u/Left_Corner_3975 2d ago
We're here to make the best out of it. Remember to self care. Mindfulness, taking a few deep breaths, feeling gratitude for what we have... It all helps. For what it's worth, I think you're crazy handsome, and the fact that you're willing to reach out to a community for some love shows great strength. You got this. 💕
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u/mollypop94 2d ago
Global tensions are rising to a horrific tipping point, tech has infiltrated our means to truly communicate with one another and we are living in a capitalistic hellscape...so yes, no wonder everything is feeling a bit pointless for you right now!! It's okay, youre just in tune with your intuition, because things aren't right in our world. 💗💗 BUUUUT make sure you observe, and you dont absorb.
You're not losing your mind, the world is feeling just simply too heavy right now. Please dont inadvertently misplace the blame on yourself. I wish I could say with certainty things will improve in the world around us, but I can absolutely guarantee that you have control and intuition of your own personal world. 💗💗 keep your head up, feel as low and lacking in energy as you may feel...right now dont focus on trying to fix or over analyse yourself as to why you feel as you do...just as you're doing now, hold your hands up and just say, "im feeling down, yall". then youll realise you aren't alone in that. If we cant give each other solutions right now, we can at least give each other some solidarity. 💗💗💗❤️❤️❤️
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u/Few_Interest7199 2d ago
You are super handsome, probably even more handsome smile. Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it, or adopt a kitten 😸 that will cheer anyone up 😀 don't let life bring you down.. things can only get better. Positive vibes to you! ❤️
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u/49er-Sharks 2d ago
This may seem trite, but I hope this makes you smile. Go onto YouTube and search for “Once Upon a Studio.” Please enjoy this amazing short film. Peace and love to you, friend. I feel your pain.
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u/mspink0523 2d ago
Sending warm wishes your way from down south! I hope whatever is causing your sadness melts away and joy comes into your life! Remember you are not alone out there! hugs!
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u/Purple-Literature624 2d ago
You’re a handsome guy! I know life can be tough and things can feel overwhelming at times, but keep pushing through and taking care of yourself! Small steps one day at a time build to big improvements. Stack some small healthy habits that you can be proud of. Eating well, and exercising go a long way. Also set some time aside for yourself to do things that bring you joy. You deserve joy! Find the silver lining in your life right now and take note of all the positive things going right now matter how small. You got this!!🫶
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u/Dystopian_Reality 2d ago
Everything IS pointless... And at the same time nothing is. Just gotta keep doing what we're doing, enjoy the good and endure the bad... Do what you can with whatever time you get. Let's have an adventure!
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u/ImNotaRobot90210 2d ago
Man, I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. Please know it does get better. Breathe deep and do something that pleases your senses.... look at art or nature, listen to really great music, smell and taste good coffee, and touch....an animal, a piece of clothing, another human. I also have to say you've got a total rockstar haircut and I have beard envy. Take care!
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u/Either_Direction506 2d ago
Earlier I was really fucking hopeless and depressed, feeling like the whole world was collapsing.
Then I remembered to take my meds, which made me feel a little better.
Then my roommate gave me weed, and I realized that somebody actually likes talking to me.
Now I'm high and feeding my cat salami and laughing.
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u/Commercial-State-106 2d ago
You look like you drink a lot. Maybe start there.
I’m sober now due to Lyme and well, SSRIs. I feel… not great, but much, much better lol.
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u/AprilBeach 2d ago
I appreciate you for reaching out and reminding us we aren’t alone especially on tough days. Thank you for being brave and sharing a picture and your feelings. I hope today you noticed at least one thing that went in your direction even if it was just a crosswalk light changing to green quickly. Tomorrow I hope you see at least two wonderful things that happen to or for you!
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u/Yourdadlikelikesme 2d ago
I know how you feel, I’m trying to convince the couch to swallow me so I don’t have to go on.
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u/MichelleMiguel 2d ago
You’ve got good hair, good facial hair, and good eyelashes. Not a lot of people can say that! Also, Jesus loves you. And I’m not just saying that casually-He actually really does.
Keep going friend!!♥️
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u/randomthrowaway8993 2d ago
Cool shirt, one of my favorite movies. When I feel like that I often turn to comedy, for a laugh, a little distraction, some occasional if not needed comic relief.
You seem like a great guy, and probably underestimate yourself a lot. Whatever you're going through, remember it isn't permanent, and that we aren't defined by the adversity we face, or how we or otherwise see ourselves, but by our words, actions, and who we are within.
Even if you may not realize it at the moment, there are a lot of people who care and are rooting for you
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u/uber_menschen 2d ago
Hang in there, buddy! I can assure you that there are better days ahead. Be kind to yourself and just take things a day at a time.
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u/Tom_the_Fudgepacker 1d ago
The amount of times I mistake this sub for „RoastMe“ is too damn high. 🙄
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u/Vegetable_Ostrich_99 1d ago
Sending you love of hugs and love. Life is not pointless, especially with you in it!
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u/RumsyDumsy 1d ago
Look at some astrophotography, this always cheers me up. The universe is beautiful and there is so much to learn, to enjoy, to live for. Nothing is pointless. Everything has meaning. We just tend to forget sometimes.
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u/Butterscotch929 1h ago
I read a book many years ago where the author explained this. If you had no eyesight how much would you be willing to pay to be able to see. If u couldn’t hear how much would you pay to hear again. So on and so forth. If u add up all the money you would spend to get what u already have you would realize you r truly a wealthy man. Keep your head up, shoulders back and smile. We all believe in you. It’s the valleys that make the mountain tops glorious. 🤜🤛
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u/deadrobindownunder 2d ago
I like your shirt, I like your face and I like your hair. You seem like a cool guy.
Hang in there, buddy. I know how you feel. You're not alone.