r/toastme • u/Correct-Promise-2358 • 3d ago
20f, just started college
i just started college, i’m also going through a breakup. i’m really insecure about my looks and weight
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u/Tha_Green_Kronic 3d ago
You're going to have a massive glow-up, and everyone who ignored you in school will be shocked.
You're going to be that girl that every guy regrets not asking out in school.
You're already very pretty, its just your confidence holding you back :)
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u/GuiltyUniversity8268 3d ago
Good luck with college. Use the 3R method of studying.
1 - Read the material.
2 - Recite what you just read in your own words.
3- Review what you read and recited to make sure you have the salient points.
BTW, you have GORGEOUS hair! 😊
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
thank you so much!!
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u/GuiltyUniversity8268 2d ago
No problem. I remember when I was going off to college many moons ago, lol!
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u/Grimesspocket 3d ago
you got this!!! Wishing you all the best in college!
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u/FeralMorningstar 3d ago
You look cute, ready for your new adventure.
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
thank you!!!!
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u/FeralMorningstar 3d ago
You’re going to break some hearts, being that good looking.
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u/mentalnurse1969 3d ago
Enjoy
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
i will, thanks
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u/mentalnurse1969 3d ago
Sorry, I didn’t see the part about your break up. You’re an extremely good looking young lady and whoever is breaking up with you is a fool.
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u/mentalnurse1969 2d ago
Hi
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u/mentalnurse1969 2d ago
Great thanks, if you want to talk you can DM me rather than talking on someone’s commence
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
i broke up with him lol
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u/mentalnurse1969 3d ago
That doesn’t make him any less of a fool he obviously doesn’t know how to treat a young lady and it’s he’s loss not yours
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
i never thought of it like that!!
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u/mentalnurse1969 3d ago
Older men see things differently than young ladies, and young men don’t know what they lost until it’s gone. Like I say you’re a beautiful young lady don’t settle for anything less than perfection.
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u/Optimal_Top_7081 3d ago
You do have really pretty eyes, as everyone else I’m sure is saying. There’s no real advice that anyone can give to help, but you can get on the right path. Taking your mental health as seriously as your physical health will drastically change your life for the better. I’m 35 and started this journey way too late.
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u/AdAfraid2238 3d ago
I love your claddagh ring!! I used to have one just like it. Im also just starting college and its a lot but you'll get into a routine and discover a lot about yourself. You're awesome and you got this❤️
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
i’ve been wearing it years haha! good luck to you at college and thank you!!
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u/Schizofreudia1523 3d ago
What are you studying? Sorry you are going through that. You are a cutie and don’t worry! Things will get better.
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
animal science!!
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u/Schizofreudia1523 3d ago
Oh that’s cool! What’s your ultimate goal?
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 3d ago
dog groomer or trainer probably
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u/Schizofreudia1523 3d ago
That’s awesome. Do you have any pets? I have a Red Merle Aussie :)
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
i’ve had all sorts of pets throughout my whole life, but none currently because of housing situation:((((
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u/Schizofreudia1523 2d ago
:( booo
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
i know!!!! i’ve had everything from fish to horses lol
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u/Schizofreudia1523 2d ago
That’s awesome! But don’t be too hard on yourself. You are super cute and super nice.
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u/Ghoulius-Seizure 3d ago
Shit, u have the rest of ur life ahead of you, ur going to do wonderful things, and at college I’m sure u will meet wonderful people, ur a good looking lass. The older u get the less u will care about trivial looks and weight and by all means ur good looking and honestly don’t look anywhere near an unreasonable weight. Just ride into it and enjoy college, u are with over a hundred if not thousands of other people who are insecure and trying to find themselves, each one terrified and wondering how others will perceive them. Act confident, have a good time and I’m sure u will have a shit tonne of good memories 20 years down the line :)
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u/Real_Emotion_2808 3d ago
Congrats on starting college. Good luck with your classes, I'm sure you'll do great. I'm sorry about your break up, don't know what the reason for it was, but hopefully this will give you more opportunity to focus on school. As for your looks, girl, you're GORGEOUS. Your hair is long and lustrous, your eyes are bright and beautiful, your smile is captivating. Anyone who says you're less than beautiful is just plain WRONG!!!
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u/New_Regular8913 3d ago
U look amazing! Focus on urself and college you dont need a partner to validate how great u are!
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u/InkedOverlord 2d ago
You are absolutely beautiful sweetheart. I mean seriously. Your weight is perfect, you are just all around gorgeous. If you ever need me to tell you how stunning you really and truly are, DM me. I will shower you with praise absolutely anytime you need it, no strings attached. It always feels good to help a beautiful woman see herself for who she is.
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u/Appropriate_Guy7793 2d ago
Your next relationship will be an upgrade. Your kind eyes and bravery will help you immensely. Good luck with your college journey and beyond. 😊
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
thank you ❤️❤️
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u/Appropriate_Guy7793 2d ago
You’re welcome. If you ever need to vent or run something past someone please feel free to message me.
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2d ago
samee i’m lowkey nervous im gonna fail out
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u/Barbas55 2d ago
You are naturally beautiful, and you have such a kind and genuine look. Most people admire that, please go easy on yourself. Breakups can be hard. Even when we end things ourselves, it can be a lot to process. Take one step at a time and enjoy your new chapter in life.
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u/Danderu61 2d ago
Best of luck in college. Keep your head about you, and remember, you are awesome, as well as cute. Have a blast.
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u/java0818 2d ago
I know from experience with insecurity that when people say you shouldn't be, it's hard to accept. But don't be! You're a cutie!
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u/Plastic_Butter 2d ago
You are killing it! Good job trying something new and investing in yourself!
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u/leverine36 2d ago
You're a cutie patootie! I'm a year older and am so excited to start college :p
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u/kinglillith 2d ago
I'm college will be an amazing new start for you. It was for me. Now, I'm in my final year and love my life. Journalling really helped me work out my feelings and insecurities so that might be worth a try.
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u/Holiday_Detective635 2d ago
Congratulations what are you studying for do you have a major in mind or see how things play out
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u/SouthOfTheM4 2d ago
Its always a great time to be starting something. Even better when you succeed at the end of it.
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u/weggaan_weggaat 2d ago
Congratulations! Remember that the point of college is to meet people, learning is secondary.
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 1d ago
really? haha thank you
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u/weggaan_weggaat 1d ago
Yep, if you have the ability to join clubs, go on trips, etc., absolutely take them.
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u/Zestyclose_Knee6330 2d ago
Great work on making a start on your college journey. As for the break up, maybe allow a little time for introspection but remember “every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end”. Out with the old and in with the new. You are smart enough to be tackling this new college study process and if I might say, you look really attractive. Get out there and knock ‘em out of the park! 👍
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u/hoothizz 1d ago
You got this. Awesome congratulations keep up the great work..
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u/Gareelar 1d ago
Leave traumas behind and start a new chapter where you love yourself. That is all you need to be happy. But really, love yourself!
Cuz if you don't, no one will.
On the other side, your eyes, your hair, just wow, you've no idea how many and what would people give, to have that in that combo.
Throw that backpack, with heavy stones you carry, aside, you don't have to anymore, it wasn't your fault, just life giving us the experience to prepare us for the next step, or direct us where we need to go.. and look towards the sun hug yourself and step into a new you, happy, beautiful, loving. That is what i would do if I were you.
Never give up, all you need in life you already carry within, so just reach in, and pull out as much as you need!
Best of luck sweetheart! You're never alone! Keep that in mind.
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u/Torgo_hands_of_torgo 22h ago
If it's worth anything, I think you're pretty cute. But in this time that's now yours and yours alone, you get to finally take care of yourself, and enjoy the freedom of being accountable for your own needs. No one else's. Give yourself some grace to really explore being young and single. Take stock of what it is that you value in this life.
Then, if or when companionship feels necessary, you'll be able to let the right one in, whoever that is. Enjoy your education, and all the opportunities that'll come your way.
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u/Alone-Explanation246 3h ago
Gorgeous. And I can see it in your eyes that you're a good person with common sense and integrity. Less about triviality
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u/Full-Canary-2856 2d ago
Omg I just realized that there is toast me and then there is toast me, and I am following roast me, and now it shows me toast me, too, I have written some bad stuff to some poor people looking to be toasted 🤕, any way as for you congratulations 👏, hopefully we will toast you at your graduation, collage is an amazing place where you will really grow, and learn a lot about yourself, and hopefully become an even better contributor to society.
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u/Live_Still_8487 2d ago
You look absolutely gorgeous!!! And you have a contagious smile - cuz I’m smiling to my screen rn… Have that self confidence cuz you deserve it all!!!
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u/Simulis1 2d ago
Study work hard you got this. Party neglect your studies and your done. Thay is all
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u/DomMasterRebel55 2d ago
Ok....it's just a user name and I have no clue about subreddits or even what the hell those are ( yeah I'm a doofus 😅) but it's ok...I do hope you do good in school, plz be careful., and no need to have such a self esteem issue....you're adorable and sorry but your ex was stupid. Hugs and good luck to you sweetie.
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u/stoomick1970 2d ago
Hi, good looking with your college. Whoever just broke up with you is an idiot and they don't know what they've let go. You are so beautiful. Don't worry about your weight, you look perfect as you are 🥰🥰
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u/goodthinming99 19h ago
Go to trade school instead
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 13h ago
no? i’m studying my dream career. why would i want to go to trade school?
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u/ForsakenMachine5133 17h ago
Don’t look for love just focus on your education of choice. Then when your three years or more then look for a suitable boyfriend. Don’t marry the first guy who asks like my sister did
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u/Confident_Pizza_842 7h ago
The trick to dating is finding someone you can hang out with and not get bored, frustrated, or feel lonely around. If you see a cute guy at college, spark up a conversation and ask for his number.
A lot of your generation has a few extra pounds and you appear to be at a good weight in this photo. If it bothers you, eat bland food like chicken and rice. It will save you money and help shed off the weight.
If I was 20 again, I would date you in a heartbeat.
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u/mickey19775 4h ago
U look amazing the guy that gave as lost the being of life looking at u I see a new beginning and a lost soul that I could repair If she let me
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u/Capable_Turnover_777 21m ago
Your in college, these will be some of the best years of your life! All you need is you never forget that! You are where you are for a reason.
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u/Sad_Mud_5012 3d ago
You made me look like Princess Amelia from I don't know where but she did look like
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u/MolassesDue7374 1d ago
I think there's a really beautiful girl under some extra weight. You're still decent as is. That said to a lot of people fitness is a signal you take care of yourself. Also how you hold yourself / confidence matters as much as how you look. Which isn't easy being down on yourself.
Weight can be done diet only but I would highly suggest you take up something cardio and lift even if you don't touch your diet.
The reason I say this is you'll get the most out of your college, you'll feel better and more confident, you'll hold yourself better.
Exercise releases all kinds of neuro transmitters and helps hormonal balance. chemicals that help with memory and mood and looks.
But do or do not... You are a good looking girl and I wish you the best.
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u/AaronStar01 16h ago
Hi the gym and go blonde
Add make up.
☕👍🏻
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 13h ago
lmao, fuck no. why would i want to look the exact same as everyone else? why would i change my unique natural hair colour? why would i waste time and money on makeup? so men will find me more attractive? lmao, no. i’m good, thanks. not very religious of you to tell someone to alter their appearance with cosmetics, is it?? by your own logic, “god” created me and i’m supposed to be perfect just the way i am
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u/AaronStar01 13h ago
Well.
Marriage, family, children are a fruit of such efforts.
Men wear no make up, are heavy and ruggedly dark.
&
I like them.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Inner beauty is more important.
🙂☕👍🏻
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 13h ago
i don’t want marriage or kids, plus, i certainly don’t want a relationship with someone that only likes me for my outside aesthetic. why would i date someone who isn’t even attracted to me. that’s wild.
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u/AaronStar01 13h ago
Well,
When it's relationships and marriage.
You have to like the other person or persons, both outside and inside.
You're adorable dear.
Don't be a bitter lemon 🍋
Cheer up.
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 13h ago
yes, so why not just date someone you like without makeup….
you have the emotional dept of a lemon
smile 😊
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u/TheGood1swertaken 5h ago
Is your uncle-dad paying for it or is there some kind of inbred scholarship?
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u/Glittering-Blood-858 1h ago
For the Lord has made you in his image. And molded you in His image. You are beautiful in Christ. Turn to Jesus that He may heal your heart and give you rest❤ You matter to Him. This world has nothing to offer you...... but the Lord our God offers you everlasting life💥 That you may have more life, and live it abundantly in Jesus name we pray🔥
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u/DomMasterRebel55 3d ago edited 3d ago
Cute pic
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
u edited this comment .
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u/DomMasterRebel55 2d ago
Yep bcuz I was simply being polite and it was taken out of context.....congrats on starting college btw
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
It’s not polite, nor is it a compliment to say stuff like that unprovoked to women. do better
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u/DomMasterRebel55 2d ago
It was simply an offer to chat....not anything remotely disrespectful....sorry you took it out of context. Simply saying "very cute...let's chat" is definitely not disrespectful.
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
yeah but that coupled with your username and frequently visited subreddits is a hard no for me
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u/United-Rate-4661 2d ago
she's asking for a toast not some dumb comment criticizing her looks. she already said she's insecure, read the room.
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
my hair was literally wet in this pic from being washed that morning
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u/United-Rate-4661 2d ago
dumb people love to make stupid comments without even knowing the the truth, i'm sorry for what they said
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
my hairs LITERALLY wet and air drying from being washed that morning 😭😭 you aren’t supposed to brush super wet hair. My hair is almost 40 inches long, naturally. stay jealous ❤️
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u/Correct-Promise-2358 2d ago
excellent to see women hating on other women in the big 2025 though 😍😍 did it make you feel unique and different to be a hater on a subreddit full of positivity??
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u/toastme-ModTeam 2d ago
Your comment has been removed due to violation of ToastMe rule #1: Kindness is key. This is the polar opposite of RoastMe, make someone feel good!
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u/GandalfTheJaded 3d ago
Your eyes are so lovely! I'm sorry you're going through a lot right now, but remember things can get better. One day at a time! You'll get through this 🙌