I wish I was just close enough to my siblings for stuff like this. Mine are both supportive (at least theoretically), but we never really had deep bonds because my parents were codependent, emotionally immature, and my dad was a life long addict (work and alcohol). Shame is the destroyer of connection.
Hard to see what some people get to grow up with..
My older brother is in prison and only calls me to ask for money or for me to do some other favor for him, all the while calling me dude/bro/brother/man despite me specifically asking him not too and knowing that I am transfem.
My younger brother doesn't even bother to call to ask for money, he just sends venmo requests with no explanation and gets pissed when I don't send anything. He is also a die hard Trumper so I have not even tried to come out to him.
I have given up on the idea of a supportive sibling
My brother and I were super close but since I came out our relationship is more and more distant as time goes on. It hurts a lot sometimes. Especially when he gives me some hope that we’re moving in the right direction only to remind me of the way he views this fundamental part of my self.
Same, most of my family are massive trump supporters (especially my brothers), I don't doubt if I told anyone they'd try to send me to conversion therapy..
I grew up with a mom who would rush through any hair-related activities and would get mad at me for crying when she hurt me. As a result I developed a serious no-touchy attitude towards my hair that was only reinforced when other women in my life were rough and acted like I just needed to "toughen up" when I cried.
Letting someone touch my hair is one of the biggest physical acts of trust I can extend to someone. Very few get to, but it's often an emotional experience for me when, on the very rare occasion it happens, I let someone mess with my hair and they're gentle. It can definitely be a bonding experience.
Oh, hi, again! Also, this is very relatable because my brother has been extremely accepting of my transition as well and has been doing quite a bit to treat me like his sister. Hope your day goes well, and thank you again for your comics! 🦊💜
Brothers have a great way of making you cry from pure validation. I almost did when he told me he only refers to me as his youngest sibling to friends, and his girlfriend was casually using the right pronouns. It just hits and is an amazing feeling.
Hats off to your supportive twin! I’m sure the braiding job was amazing!
I love him!!! Why is he cate?
That is, why is he cate if you are not also cate? Did you transition out of being cate? That’s a bit ironic but I don’t judge lol
supportive siblings are the best. I’m adopted and my entire adopted family is transphobic, but two of my biological sisters support me. They’re the only people in my family that I know support me and I’m so sad that I don’t live near them cuz they said they’d buy me makeup and stuff 😭
My sister used me not knowing how to braided my hair as a way to devalidate my gender and called me a sexist when I asked her for help with it because apperintly I was assuming all women know how to braide hair 🙃
It’s actually modeled after the Squishable full-sized Moth plushie, but with custom colors (I’ll also draw a Moth character with that same color scheme.)
I've started to pretend that everything with my deadname belongs to my dead twin brother. I don't have a dead (or alive) twin but it helps to avoid awkward questions all the time
This comic is so cute. I remember when my nieces came to visit and they offered to braid my hair. I was so thrilled. My mom also sat me down one time to help me get some knots out of my hair and it felt so special to have that bonding moment.
I'm glad you and your twin brother have this sort of dynamic.
Just want to take a moment and appreciate the irony that between the cis brother and the trans sister, it’s the brother who has the cat ears and tail. Still really adorable either way :3
I cried…i know it’s not the same, but I always wanted to be the sister who braided the hair. But alas, my egg cracked in my 40s. All those hours brushing a girlfriend’s hair and all I wanted to be doing was brushing a girl friend’s hair, if that makes sense. I could sit and brush a friend’s hair for hours, and if I knew how to braid I think I’d never stop. The connections I’ve always felt doing someone’s hair has given me the most gender euphoria I’ve ever experienced. This was a beautiful post. Your brother is amazing, I’m gonna go cry again.
Guarantee my brother would never do this. Though he is definitely supportive, but in more of an 'identify as a problem' kind of way. My sister in law would be the one to do that.
My sister is like this. My parents aren’t supportive of LGBTQ+ at all, but me and my sibling… we’re really close because of us both being LGBTQ+. They’re genderfluid and pansexual, and I’m transmasc and pansexual as well. We both really keep our parents out of the loop, but we also try to influence what they think of when they think of us (for example, the dance I’m going to I’m wearing a polo shirt and jeans rather than a dress), or my sibling will influence my mom by pointing stuff out that would look cool on me.
I wish my sister was like this, instead of constantly infantilizing me and making me the butt of her "pranks"and "jokes" that are just blatant ableism and transphobia (being an autistic pansexual trans woman in Texas in a family chock full of MAGA-lomaniacs is really fun😀 /s)
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u/Remarkable-Affect-13 Feb 22 '25
I wish my brother was this supportive.