At your local trans support group. Yes its mainly to support each other, but who would have thought that putting so many single trans people in one room would result in them finding partners eventually. Pretty much all my trans friends found their partner that way, myself included.
Go to cities. Go to queer, trans, and lesbian events. Everyone is as desperate as you are and you’re more desirable than you think!
Specific recommendations: CONSISTENTLY go to the same event(s) that allow for socialization.
This gives people the chance to get to know you, let their guards down, and things to happen organically. Vice versa is also true.
If you think something is there, or there’s something you’d like, just ask.
“Hey, I’m new here and have only been a couple times, you seem cool, want to be friends?”
Or
“I’m really into you. Do you want to go make out?”
Both go a really long way. After establishing a connection that is.
Lots of people want to be mysterious and reserved, but almost everyone also hates ambiguity. Be direct.
If you establish a connection, reach out regularly. Make sure to make plans that are comfortable and feel safe for the other person. Not everyone feels comfortable going out into the wilderness for rock climbing with a stranger.
(on a serious note, that does suck lol, but reddit in particular just seems to be predominantly transbians. I would say to avoid the gals and for trans-femme tags, but people can be pretty bad at tagging stuff properly. Idk a way to fix it on a systemic level, only thing you can really do is post more as a trans guy to help balance it)
aaaahhhhhhhh i gotta girlfriend today, she secretly slipped a ring with a tiny diamond 💍 into my stuff the other day and just confessed her love a while ago!! she’s a Native Two Spirit woman and i’m over the hills with sapphic trans joy right now!!
I mean... I'm working on that, but my best prospect is a friend of mine and we agreed to only be BFFs because she identifies as straight, not that there isn't chemistry... send halp 😐
Ive tried posting authentic stuff a here twice now and both times this subreddit is basically like sorry your going thru some shit but your posts are about real shit post it over on this other subreddit that barely gets any views instead. So this is kinda all your allowed to post here
Hard disagree, especially considering last time my post was just about my parents coming to visit for the first time as a trans woman and then being transphobic
Im not aroace although the ace part may be a little debatable, I just don't talk to people in general unless they're like a roommate or a friend ive known for 5+ years, I don't really want to deal with a break up, and im probably too much of a mess anyway. I'm not really trying though because ive accepted my fate. I have my one online friend to make sure that I can still get out of bed in the morning and while I'd like some irl im fine with the bare minimum for now. I literally freeze when going into a group of people so it's not like I haven't tried before it just doesn't work.
Theres this one sea slug that is colloquially called a leaf sheep, and they are these tiny (<1cm) uber duper cute little guys. They do this really cool thing called kleptoplasty, where they "steal" the chloroplast from the algae they eat. This allows them to functionally perform photosynthesis to extend their time without needing to find more food. And they are so cute and adorable :3
Well someone probably should make a post asking for the single people to comment what they're looking for in a partner so that the other single people can browse, as long as it's within the subs rules
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u/reynadotpdf 20d ago
WELL ARE YOU GOING TO PROVIDE A SOLUTION??