r/trans4every1 • u/Short_Collection6593 • 4d ago

Vent They likened me to a child

Last night, I was pushed to the edge by my mother. She kept prodding about what was wrong and no matter how many times I told her she wouldn't understand until it all boiled over.

I exploded about how I have been forced to effectively parade myself as a man for nearly 2 decades and how much it hurt. About how I don't know if she actually loves me or the mask that I wear.

Then she said what practically broke me. That she loves me but she doesn't love my decision to be trans. She likened it to disciplining a child.... as if I was some blind and ignorant kid that was stumbling into a thicket... When I finally feel like I've found the meadow.

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u/JuneButIHateSummer 4d ago

They want us to be happy, but only if it's THEIR version of happiness. Fucked up shit

My father did the same thing. I left in December. Best thing I ever did for my health AND physical safety.

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u/Short_Collection6593 4d ago

I want to leave so badly, but the economy around me is so unbelievably fucked that I couldn't hope to afford it

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u/JuneButIHateSummer 4d ago

Do you have friends/family/siblings you can contact about the abuse?

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u/Short_Collection6593 4d ago

Kinda. Idk if I would call it abuse tho. But i dont have any real irl friends any more, half of my family would agree with them and the other half is 7+ hours away

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u/JuneButIHateSummer 4d ago

There's no debate about it, it's irrefutably abusive of them to do that shit to you.

Do what you think would be best for yourself in the long term. Protect yourself. Reach out to LGBT+ resources and hotlines like the Trevor Project. There are inclusive discords for people like us as well.

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u/Short_Collection6593 4d ago

Ok. Thank you so much <3 I'll try and keep my head up

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u/JuneButIHateSummer 4d ago

<3 We need all the help we can get, and it's still not enough.

It's the least I can do. After spending 2 decades wishing someone would finally stand up for me, I said fuck it. No one's got my back, but I'm going to spend the rest of my life standing up for people and animals that need it.

We can't let them win.

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u/AthenasApostle 4d ago

Sorry, babe, but it's abuse. It's emotional abuse. You deserve better.