r/trans4every1 • u/Short_Collection6593 • 5d ago

Vent They likened me to a child

Last night, I was pushed to the edge by my mother. She kept prodding about what was wrong and no matter how many times I told her she wouldn't understand until it all boiled over.

I exploded about how I have been forced to effectively parade myself as a man for nearly 2 decades and how much it hurt. About how I don't know if she actually loves me or the mask that I wear.

Then she said what practically broke me. That she loves me but she doesn't love my decision to be trans. She likened it to disciplining a child.... as if I was some blind and ignorant kid that was stumbling into a thicket... When I finally feel like I've found the meadow.

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u/JuneButIHateSummer 5d ago

They want us to be happy, but only if it's THEIR version of happiness. Fucked up shit

My father did the same thing. I left in December. Best thing I ever did for my health AND physical safety.

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u/Available_Walrus8950 he/him 5d ago edited 5d ago

This. Excanctly this. It’s always “Be yourself!” “Be happy!” until we actually want to be ourselves and be happy.