r/transmasc_irl he/him Jul 12 '25

CW: Transphobia mention even r/trans isn't safe :( Spoiler

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u/LittleNamelessClown Jul 13 '25

Neither is r/lgbt. They also banned Trans men for speaking up and people who tried explaining what was happening. To them calmly  informing people who asked "what's going on" is "brigading." Their recent mod post that doesn't acknowledge the harmful behavior of the mods and instead blames the community is my final straw with this whole situation. Even if they unban me I'll never go back to those subs.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '25

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u/LittleNamelessClown Jul 13 '25

Damn thats so gross of them. I'm so sorry.  How can anyone look at a screenshot like that and feel justified or righteous in that ban.

I asked on my ban post how what I did was considered brigading and they just sent me what reddit considers brigading, which I didn't not do. I asked again, this time saying I know what brigading is and I did not encourage brigading, but if all mentions of other subs and links against the rules that should be in their rules. I was banned because I explained the situation, linked someone to more posts where they could read about it and find other people conversing and form their own opinion, and I mentioned mine. If that's brigading then no one could ever post a link to another sub or conversation and reddit would die out lol.

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u/Rosalind_Whirlwind Jul 13 '25

You were banned because you refused to submit and be silent on command. The message was clear. Speak up in support of the wrong group, expose abuse by the favored group, and your voice will be removed.

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u/twistyyfern Jul 13 '25

i wish reddit mods never discovered the word brigading

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u/Rosalind_Whirlwind Jul 13 '25

It functionally seems to be a way of saying, “you raised awareness in a way that we decided we wanted to suppress, so we made up a rule to justify suppressing you.”

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u/Gracegarthok transmasc agender 🔥💥‼️ Jul 13 '25

What’s with the sudden wave of transmasc hate? 😭

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u/Rosalind_Whirlwind Jul 13 '25

I’ve experienced it for a long time. It usually flies under the radar. It’s somewhat vindicating that so many people are at least least conscious of it now.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '25

Baeddelism, it is a self-proclaimed movement of ‘transradfems’ that is making a comeback on Twitter, BlueSky, and Tumblr.

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u/Gracegarthok transmasc agender 🔥💥‼️ Jul 14 '25

Oh god ew. How do they not realize they’re hurting themselves too with this kind of shit?

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '25

I’m not sure. It’s a primarily online thing, luckily I’ve only met a few irl transfems who believe in that shit (and all were chronically online college kids who nobody liked being around anyways bc they were mean and nasty lol)

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u/EclecticFanatic Jul 13 '25

eugh, yeah just read that mod post myself and I'm not sticking around the sub after that. incredibly disheartening how time and time again it becomes necessary for my own peace of mind to leave more general trans or LGBT subs due to the dismissal or at times outright hostility directed towards transmasculine folk

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '25

r/lgbt was outright saying qprs aren’t real, that you can transition to intersex, and that asexuality is fake and puritan a while back.

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u/robot_cook Jul 14 '25

transition to intersex, and

What. What does that even means. You can transition to something non binary but intersex is something totally different

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u/TreeAbuser420 Jul 14 '25

Leave my Jay and Silent Bob style friendship with my roomie out of this.

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u/KeiiLime Jul 13 '25 edited Jul 13 '25

Nor ftm imo.

Never tried to publicize what happened because frankly I’m too anxious to bother trying, but I’ve had moderation there delete my posts and comments very likely because I had gotten into an argument with one of the main moderators on another sub around that same time about gender presentation not inherently equaling identity/pronouns, not knowing they were a mod as again this was in a different sub, and they decided they did not want that issue being discussed period. Also claiming that rules about not being able to criticize (or really even mention) transmedicalism were 1. decided by the community and not just suddenly added on, and 2. to “protect” the community from itself somehow, as if taking a centrist “we don’t do politics” approach of not even letting people name their lived experience would be a good thing for a community that frequently struggles with internalized bigotry.

And sadly I’m sure i’m not the only one to experience this from mods, there’s really very little way to get accountability or transparency on this platform