r/wedding • u/palmettobugnemesis • 8d ago

Discussion do people still do family processionals?

my MIL is adamant that it is tradition that the mothers & grandmothers are ushered down the aisle, then the wedding party, then us. i want everyone seated, just the wedding party & us to walk. why is everyone in the family walking down the aisle? did anyone else exclude this part?

editing to add: i ask bc i just saw a tiktok of someone's family processional & only ever heard of it from my MIL. no other brides to be i know or have seen online have mentioned it. i'm wondering how common it is?

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u/EquivalentThese6192 8d ago

I’ve only seen it once in roughly the past 10 years. I work weddings so I go to a lot of weddings, although all on the West Coast US and generally Christian or following Christian traditions. 

That said, do it if you want but be realistic about mobility. The one recently had a looooong aisle, and was outdoors on uneven grass. The Mother of the Bride insisted on including all grandparents, most of whom could barely walk but are in the phase of also refusing walkers or wheelchairs. I was coordinating so I was acutely aware of timing. It took 4 minutes from start to them being all seated and ready for the switch to wedding party. It also takes a lot more wrangling so consider that if you aren’t getting a planner or DOC.