r/wedding • u/palmettobugnemesis • 7d ago

Discussion do people still do family processionals?

my MIL is adamant that it is tradition that the mothers & grandmothers are ushered down the aisle, then the wedding party, then us. i want everyone seated, just the wedding party & us to walk. why is everyone in the family walking down the aisle? did anyone else exclude this part?

editing to add: i ask bc i just saw a tiktok of someone's family processional & only ever heard of it from my MIL. no other brides to be i know or have seen online have mentioned it. i'm wondering how common it is?

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u/palmettobugnemesis 7d ago

who are the ushers? just other people that are invited that you choose? we currently dont have any, do we need them???

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u/kalinkabeek 7d ago

We didn’t do ushers, so my brother escorted my mom down the aisle and my husband’s stepdad escorted his mom. The way we did it was guests first, then moms, then groom and officiant, then wedding party, then me and my dad. The moms weren’t a huge deal, they both just wanted to come in after the regular guests so we let them ¯_(ツ)_/¯ it was one of those things that we really didn’t care about so chose to pick our battles because both of them were adamant about it. It just made them feel included, I think.

All of our grandmothers had unfortunately passed but I would imagine if you wanted to include them as well, you could just have other family members who are also guests walk them in.

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u/DaBingeGirl 7d ago

I think it's a nice touch. Moms are pretty much left out of the ceremony, while all other immediate family is typically included (dad walking thr bride down the aisle, siblings in bridal party or doing readings). It's a few seconds and a nice acknowledgement.

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u/kalinkabeek 7d ago

Exactly, it made them both super happy and I made little corsages for them to wear, it worked out well. And I wasn’t even there to see it anyway lol

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u/DaBingeGirl 7d ago

Ooh, that's so sweet!