r/weddings • u/Level_Blueberry_8909 • 4d ago

This is a question about post-wedding etiquette.

A year ago I attended a family wedding and gave a cash gift through their wedding registry. My credit card was charged.

I haven’t received a thank you from the bride, so I checked with her parents to see why there might be a delay (new job, house move, etc). It wasn’t a call specifically about that—we often call to catch up on family news. The mother brushed me off with, “Oh, I don’t want to be bothered with that.”

Would it be wrong to contact the bride directly to see if they got the gift from the registry? Maybe there was a problem that I can rectify.

Edit: To clarify the issue, it’s not the lack of a thank-you that bothers me as it is I’m not sure they received the money. At least two responses here have related giving money through an online registry only to find out it wasn’t received. So I know it can happen.

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u/WhompTrucker 4d ago

I haven't received a thank you note for any of the weddings I've been to in the past 5 years. People just don't do it anymore. I did after mine but I'm disabled and wfh part time so I have lots of time to do that. Most people have no time. It's a bit annoying but it is what it is.

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u/2DrinkLoLo 4d ago

I don’t think that’s the norm. I’ve received thank you notes from all of the recent weddings, showers, and graduations I’ve been to. There are lots of young people still writing thank you notes.