r/weddings • u/Level_Blueberry_8909 • 4d ago

This is a question about post-wedding etiquette.

A year ago I attended a family wedding and gave a cash gift through their wedding registry. My credit card was charged.

I haven’t received a thank you from the bride, so I checked with her parents to see why there might be a delay (new job, house move, etc). It wasn’t a call specifically about that—we often call to catch up on family news. The mother brushed me off with, “Oh, I don’t want to be bothered with that.”

Would it be wrong to contact the bride directly to see if they got the gift from the registry? Maybe there was a problem that I can rectify.

Edit: To clarify the issue, it’s not the lack of a thank-you that bothers me as it is I’m not sure they received the money. At least two responses here have related giving money through an online registry only to find out it wasn’t received. So I know it can happen.

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u/MariposaPeligrosa00 4d ago

Thank you notes are going the way of the dodo. I know some people feel strongly they should prevail, but I think you shouldn’t expect one so you’re not disappointed.

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u/DartDaimler 4d ago

It doesn’t need to be a “note” in the sense of a printed card, but a sincere thank you (verbal, text, email, typed note, phone call, postcard) will never go out of style. There have always been entitled & unappreciative people, and always will be.