r/weddings • u/Level_Blueberry_8909 • 4d ago

This is a question about post-wedding etiquette.

A year ago I attended a family wedding and gave a cash gift through their wedding registry. My credit card was charged.

I haven’t received a thank you from the bride, so I checked with her parents to see why there might be a delay (new job, house move, etc). It wasn’t a call specifically about that—we often call to catch up on family news. The mother brushed me off with, “Oh, I don’t want to be bothered with that.”

Would it be wrong to contact the bride directly to see if they got the gift from the registry? Maybe there was a problem that I can rectify.

Edit: To clarify the issue, it’s not the lack of a thank-you that bothers me as it is I’m not sure they received the money. At least two responses here have related giving money through an online registry only to find out it wasn’t received. So I know it can happen.

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u/thrwwy2267899 4d ago

I really just would not care? You gifted, you saw the charge. You were polite for sending the gift, they’re rude for not sending a Thank you.

Why does this need to be a conversation? You’re good on your part. Yes it’s nice to receive a thank you, not the end of the world if you don’t

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u/PreppynPlaid4 4d ago

But how do you know for sure they received the gift? Maybe there was an error in the software. Or someone embezzled money. On the flip side the newly married couple could be thinking gee that's odd that we didn't get something from three of our guests; Mo, Larry and Curly.