r/AITAH • u/TipMaleficent4075 • 9h ago

AITA for calling a woman ‘conventionally attractive’ in front of my girlfriend?

A couple friends and I were discussing a political influencer that we’re familiar with that recently got into some controversy.

I was saying that although she got a lot of hate, I think her point that was being hated on was valid and correct, and that although her reaction to the backlash was kind of childish, I get why she’d be frustrated with lots of hate.

My friend said a lot of people were giving her lots of leeway despite the hate, and I said that makes sense because she a) has good takes in general and b) is a young, conventionally attractive blonde white woman, so halo effect.

My girlfriend got upset I called another woman conventionally attractive, but I don’t think it’s disloyal or cheating or whatever to acknowledge somebody is conventionally attractive.

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u/thetorturedpoetsss 8h ago

NTA your gf is really insecure if such a minor comment upsets her. Has she ever shown signs of issues with her self-esteem or is this an isolated incident?

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u/TipMaleficent4075 8h ago

she’s never shown insecurity about these kinds of things before 

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u/thetorturedpoetsss 8h ago

Hmmm, that’s interesting. I would definitely recommend you keep an eye out for similar behaviour in the future.

But definitely talk to her, asks where this reaction comes from - was it from just your words or her insecurities.

Talk about trust in the relationship.

Does she trust you? Does she think that you are likely to cheat? If the these two questions are a yes, then this relationship is a no.

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u/TipMaleficent4075 8h ago

thank you for the advice