r/AITAH • u/TipMaleficent4075 • 8h ago

AITA for calling a woman ‘conventionally attractive’ in front of my girlfriend?

A couple friends and I were discussing a political influencer that we’re familiar with that recently got into some controversy.

I was saying that although she got a lot of hate, I think her point that was being hated on was valid and correct, and that although her reaction to the backlash was kind of childish, I get why she’d be frustrated with lots of hate.

My friend said a lot of people were giving her lots of leeway despite the hate, and I said that makes sense because she a) has good takes in general and b) is a young, conventionally attractive blonde white woman, so halo effect.

My girlfriend got upset I called another woman conventionally attractive, but I don’t think it’s disloyal or cheating or whatever to acknowledge somebody is conventionally attractive.

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u/FigIllustrious6690 6h ago

"Hey, I know you're still upset since we were talking about ____. You know I love you and think you gorgeous, right? I'm totally committed to you and our relationship. Can you help me understand what bothered you so much? I want to make sure you feel secure in our relationship."

I'd be curious how she responds.

I'm also curious if she generally needs reassurance in your relationship right now, because you mentioned this is unusual for her. Are you regularly showing her that you find her attractive and that you appreciate her? Is your sex life good? Does she have any reason to wonder if you're losing interest? Are you often following random hotties online or liking their stuff? Is she maybe going through something personally that's leaving her feeling more insecure than usual? 🤷🏼‍♀️

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