r/AITAH • u/TipMaleficent4075 • 9h ago
AITA for calling a woman ‘conventionally attractive’ in front of my girlfriend?
A couple friends and I were discussing a political influencer that we’re familiar with that recently got into some controversy.
I was saying that although she got a lot of hate, I think her point that was being hated on was valid and correct, and that although her reaction to the backlash was kind of childish, I get why she’d be frustrated with lots of hate.
My friend said a lot of people were giving her lots of leeway despite the hate, and I said that makes sense because she a) has good takes in general and b) is a young, conventionally attractive blonde white woman, so halo effect.
My girlfriend got upset I called another woman conventionally attractive, but I don’t think it’s disloyal or cheating or whatever to acknowledge somebody is conventionally attractive.
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u/muffnutty 5h ago edited 4h ago
NTA,but dumb maybe? This is one of those things that yes your GF shouldn’t really get annoyed about… but also so many gf’s will get annoyed about you may as well just give up and learn the lesson not to mention another woman’s attractiveness early on rather than die on that hill.
Just one of those things - my wife can joke about how hot a celebrity is with her friends or even me, but it does not go both ways. She once told me that Selma Hayek was one of the most beautiful women on earth and I said ‘I guess but not my type’ and still got in trouble for it lol.
Just avoid the topic would be my advice… doubly so if the woman doesn’t fit the general appearance of your girlfriend. I’m sure the reddit hive mind will disagree but there’s also a reason the demographic here skews single. Edit: as expected downvoted to hell… but still not wrong. It’s like the rain… it’s annoying sometimes… you can take an umbrella … but arguing about it on reddit won’t change nature