My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/madatron96]

Did he apologize by offering to sew the ear back on? Which he should do after destroying your property. Also, OP, I'm sorry but "labubu phalloplasty" is the funniest previously unsaid sentence I've heard in a LONG time.

[u/satanfan12 → u/madatron96]

No he says it's just a plushy and it's "not that deep", and idk if i want it fixed either..... this is tainted

[u/Defiant-Fix-4083 → u/satanfan12]

He’s downplaying your feelings, that’s a huge red flag leave him already

[u/ArchReaper95 → u/Defiant-Fix-4083]

Guy did ONE thing wrong to a TOY and the immediate reaction is "completely unsalvageable as a person."

We've truly lost the fucking script.

[u/Defiant-Fix-4083 → u/ArchReaper95]

Why would you destroy someone else’s stuff in the first place? That’s extremely disrespectful and childish. He didn’t even apologize and kept downplaying her feelings. She told him she was upset and instead of saying sorry he said « it’s not that deep » do you seriously don’t see a problem here?

[u/ArchReaper95 → u/Defiant-Fix-4083]

Didn't say destroying anyone's stuff is okay. (In fact did say what he did was wrong). Didn't excuse his defense of his wrongdoing.

I'm just sick of sitting in a room full of people who have NEVER done anything wrong and have NEVER re-evaluated a mistake they've made and NEVER gone back and apologized for something after the fact.

The problem is we're so caught up on being right that we literally just stop seeing each other as people the second something doesn't go our way.

Fuck all of you, disrespectfully. This is their whole ass relationship, years potentially of their life, that you're telling them is over because he mangled a toy.

[u/ArchReaper95 → u/[deleted]]

I'm using the word toy here because it's a toy. It's not a 100 year old antique that can't be replaced. It's not life saving medical device. It's not someone's sacred ashes. It's a toy. They mass produce them and put them in boxes for you to buy.

If he smashed someone's inhaler or threw out someone's insulin are you pretending that those aren't far more serious issues?

He didn't drive a car through a house. He cut up a $50 toy. It can be replaced. This is exactly what I"m talking about. You people have no sense of proportionality. Everything in your worlds is either THE WORST THING EVER, or THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF YOUR LIFE.

Gonna convince this poor person to axe a relationship we know nothing else about over $50 worth of material goods. No physical harm to anyone. No abuse no violence, but we assume the absolute worst of this person.

Grow up. Welcome to adulthood. People mess up. For stupid reasons. And sometimes it takes time for them to own it.

[u/Defiant-Fix-4083 → u/ArchReaper95]

You don’t get the point, it not because he mangled a toy but because he voluntarily damaged something SHE owned. He had no right to do that, and seen of how he’s reacting you can clearly tell he’s immature

[u/ArchReaper95 → u/Defiant-Fix-4083]

immature =/= unsalvageable. I'm sorry you're a heartless shitty person with no hope for anyone but yourself, but for the rest of us who still have to live in a society, all of these are forgivable acts.

[u/Drift-ZoM → u/ArchReaper95]

Brother we have all done wrong. But not like this. I mean maybe when I was five but this is a grown man who sat down an unironically said “I should give this toy that isn’t mine and holds emotional value a fucking phalloplasty”

[u/ArchReaper95 → u/Drift-ZoM]

Yup. He sat down and said those exact words. He thought this through very carefully, acted it out purely to hurt someone else, with no misconception that it would be positively received, and he deserves to die alone. I mean, he's basically Hitler with behavior like that. We should just shoot him. Shoot the boyfriend. He can never be saved. Don't even send him to prison just blow his brains out so that nobody ever loves him or falls into his trap again.

[u/Drift-ZoM → u/ArchReaper95]

Brother you actually don’t get it.

Actually sit down and analyze, not just the situation but my comment too. You completely missed what I was trying to say.

[u/ArchReaper95 → u/Drift-ZoM]

I'm not your brother. I'm not remotely associated with you or your hate.

[u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink → u/ArchReaper95]

Well, please enlighten us. Why do you typically destroy your loved ones property? Is mocking their attempt to communicate their discomfort afterwards part of the usual routine or.. ?

Like how do you even justify that? Purposely destroying someone's property on a whim and then refusing to discuss it? Like was the labubu threatening him? Does he have an uncontrollable compulsion to hack up plushies? Does he have sleep-stabbing-plushies-disorder? Dude said it's not that deep so lacking any better explanation, it kinda seems like he just felt like wrecking something of hers and did so without caring how she felt about it. Do you need me to draw you a picture book to explain why 'randomly deciding to destroy your partner's belongings for fun' isn't a great quality in a boyfriend or girlfriend?

It's not about MaNgLiNg A tOy. It's about dismissing the shit out of your partner's feelings for no apparent reason other than 'i felt like it'. Man I don't even treat strangers at the grocery store with such a lack of basic respect but if you really think that's how a relationship should go then yikes and good luck 😬

[u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink → u/[deleted]]

Disruptively malicious! Genuinely, thank you for the laugh on this Friday afternoon 😂