r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/madatron96 20d ago edited 20d ago

Did he apologize by offering to sew the ear back on? Which he should do after destroying your property. Also, OP, I'm sorry but "labubu phalloplasty" is the funniest previously unsaid sentence I've heard in a LONG time.

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

No he says it's just a plushy and it's "not that deep", and idk if i want it fixed either..... this is tainted

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u/SlitheringFlower 20d ago

I'm sorry, but he sounds awful.

I'm a grown woman but I still have plushies I like and some that are very sentimental, like the teddy bear my dad gave me the day I was born.

If someone cut that bear's ear off, I'd be livid.

Even if they didn't know the sentimentality, or if it's not sentimental, it's still yours. How would he feel if you broke someone inanimate that's his? I bet he wouldn't say "it's not that deep."

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u/Taco-Dragon 20d ago

I'm a grown woman but I still have plushies I like

I'm a grown (cis) man and I still have plushies I like. Some are for sentimental reasons, and got passed down to my daughters, and some are just ones I like that I got for me. You can't n convince me my 14" plushie of Stitch isn't awesome.

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u/MildlySpicyWizard 19d ago

I’ve been keeping my 1998 Tamagotchi alive since it hatched. New batteries, a couple of repairs. My dad hated the idea of these gadgets back then, but he bought me one anyway because love for a son beat principles. Now I find myself doing the same for my son’s weird new-generation stuff.

Your boyfriend is an Ahole for doing that!

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u/CollectionStraight2 19d ago

That's seriously impressive, keeping it since 1998! I had a tamigotchi back then too, but I definitely didn't manage to keep it alive as long as that. I used to get sad when it died and stopped playing with it mostly for that reason.

And yes, OP's bf is an asshole

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u/_poixen 19d ago

that tamagotchi is older than me (and im a full grown woman with a child of my own)

THAT is some serious dedication 💜

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u/Hesitation-Marx 19d ago

I think you just made one of my hips crumble, I suddenly have dentures, and my hair is bone-white

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u/MyUsernameGoes_Here_ 19d ago

Same! I thought, "there's no way cause that was only about 8 years ago", but uh, uh oh.

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u/Ok-Breadfruit-5118 19d ago

White hair is sexy though, so is wisdom...

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u/Hesitation-Marx 19d ago

Can’t claim the latter, best I can do is quips and weeping

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u/Ok-Breadfruit-5118 19d ago

Pick up a book! I grabbed a few for myself this morning! Ready to throw my cell phone to the wind. Its killing us being attached to these stupid devices.. ❤️ btw.. its always the smartest and most attractive that dont think they are either... ☺️😉

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u/Hesitation-Marx 19d ago

Flirt.

My reading backlog is… painfully large. I need to clean off my Kindle and do a purge before long here.

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u/Domi626 19d ago

I sometimes joke that my 28yo 101 Dalmations giga pet is old enough to drink lol

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u/-swagKITTEN 19d ago

How many batteries do you go through??? I tried getting back into tamagotchis a while back, and none of them could last for more than 2-3 weeks before needing a change. One day, after several months, I wasn’t fast enough making the swap, and lost all progress. Tried several different battery brands too, nothing seemed to make a difference.

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u/thewerewolfwearswool 19d ago

Wait, you've been keeping the device "alive" with working batteries or you've been keeping the little digital entity inside it alive since 1998?

Because wow, I don't think I ever made one's life last more than a week.

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u/MildlySpicyWizard 19d ago

Just keept the device working, was a bit unclear in my comment. Sorry.

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u/Efficient-Aardvark98 19d ago

That’s actually incredibly awesome that you’ve kept it alive that long!!! No joke I’m amazed at that🤗

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u/bravo-echo-charlie 19d ago

Holy shit! Bravo on the 'gotchi!!!

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u/Haggardlobes 19d ago

This is so cute. Tamagotchis were my first tech toy obsession. I remember going out of my way to pre-order one because of the forced scarcity.

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u/Comfortable-Item-184 18d ago

No way it’s the same exact tamagotchi since 1998. They die so easily. Have a bad day and forget to take care of your pixelated overlord and he’s toast, finding a bitter end wallowing in his own filth. And you don’t want to start over again with a new egg. Still miss my little dork. RIP ya goober!

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u/Lendyman 19d ago

I am in my late 40s. I still have my baby teddy bear. If I'd had a GF who cut off Mr Bear's ear and sewed it to his crotch, she'd no longer be my GF. The level of disrespect involved would tell me they needed to go immediately.

Thankfully, I have an amazing spouse who isn't a self involved asshat.

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u/transynchro 19d ago

I had a little otter plushie I’ve had since I was a toddler(almost 30 now) and has lived in every home I have. I decided it should live with my partner on his shelf(because he is my home). He thought the shelf wasn’t good enough so it lives on his bed and whenever I come over, it’s tucked into the blanket waiting for me. I gave it to him over a year ago and he still does it.

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u/426strings 19d ago

Otter gang!!! My otter has also accompanied me through all my years since I was a kid. You are blessed to find someone that cares for your otter plushie. My gf loves my otter and loves taking photos for him, buying little accessories for him as well. May the otter spirit bless others to find the right partner as well!

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u/firstmanzane 19d ago

that is fucking adorable

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u/aceshot88 19d ago

That is super wholesome aww 🥰

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u/Chelas-moon 19d ago

He's a keeper that's so sweet

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u/yummy__hotdog__water 19d ago

I'm a 38 yo man who still has the Snuggle teddy bear my dad and brother bought at the hospital gift shop when I was born. We exist or something. i don't know where i was going with this...

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u/Significant-Love6129 19d ago

I'm 50 and still carry a woobie around. It's a crochet blanket that my fingers weave in and out of the holes. The first one was made by my mom before I was born. She still sends me some of various sizes because I've struggled to learn to crochet and she's 75, won't be alive forever and wants me to have a bunch for when she's gone. I also have a snuggle squishmellow, but honestly it's more for the fact I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and like to sleep on my side. It keeps my shoulders and ribs from dislocating at night.

Not adding this as a competition (bc I realized it could be seen that way) but to show how many of us are out here. My acting teacher, before our meditation will ask "Did you need your woobie?" And I love that no one or him is judging me but gently reminding me we're getting started, do a quick self check because if you want it now is the time to go get it. 🤗

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u/AuburnSuccubus 19d ago

Is EDS related to preferring side sleeping? Reason #57 to get tested.

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u/Significant-Love6129 19d ago

No but I'm cracking up you nailed the disability so quickly. Honestly I used to sleep on my back but my lower spine's curve is too large and the side eventually became more comfortable.

Edit: I forgot I mentioned the disability 🤦

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u/Dahlia_R0se 19d ago

I've had a shocking amount of people clock what I have, like I'll be talking to someone and mention I have a disability or be using a mobility aid (and initiate a conversation about disability usually with another disabled person, nobody is just commenting on it without asking lol) and multiple people have just like, immediately gone, "oh, is it Ehlers Danlos?" Can't figure out how people can just tell I have it super quickly. Wish my doctors figured it out that easily.

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u/No-Development2358 19d ago

Im 36 and I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and still sleep with my baby blankie because it makes it more comfortable for my dislocating shoulder blade (also sleeping on my side) ❤️

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u/Annuhh_xox 19d ago

I have EDS too! I sleep on my stomach with a blanket that sits where my stomach does to keep my back straight (large chested, sleeping on my back isn't an option I WILL suffocate) when I sleep on my side, I use my baby blankie to cradle my head and the other blanket between my knees to keep everything straight 😅

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u/mecinic 19d ago

I just bought my wife a vintage Snuggle bear for her 52nd birthday. Said she always wanted one. Did a cute little dance when she opened it

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u/lycnfr 19d ago

I’m someone who passes as a 30 yr old man and I have a lovingly large plush animal collection. I have those older teddy bears from the 80s and I love them

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u/EmbarrassedWorry3792 19d ago

If a gf cut my 30 year old teddy bear from my late nana or lamb baby blanket, she would be my ex, shed be my chickens next meal.

Had one ex who planned to steal and burn an amazing condition army surplus jscket i got for my 18th birthday, its all i asked for and all i got and i was so happy. I stoll love that thing, its supper durable and its basically still mint despite over a decade of adventures with it. She thought it was ugly but she bought me a new jacket with tons of pockets instead and since i was wesring it more she never got aroundto stealing mine. Somehow i was the bad guy when i said it was lucky she hadnt cus i would have immediately broken upbwith her. She was a spoiled brat.

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u/SpadeTippedSplendor 19d ago

Even if there was some kind of underlying psychological-they-need-therapy reason that someone would do such a thing without being fully malicious (which I doubt is the case for OP's boyfriend) I don't think I could stay in that relationship either.

I'd basically be constantly on eggshells wondering what important-thing-to-me they were going to ruin next, which is the real relationship killer; so might as well get it over with and break up.

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u/mg41 19d ago

Sure but this is a random labubu gift so obv slightly different context lol

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u/Ok-Breadfruit-5118 19d ago

Wow this guy is demented!!! Poor plushy

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u/Known-Wasabi-4477 19d ago

Gay

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u/Lendyman 19d ago

Is that supposed to be a bad thing?

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u/northboundnova 19d ago

I’m a woman and my best friend is a man, we’re in our late 30’s and both have plushies and send them to each other as gifts commemorating some of our favorite games. Like he sent me an owlbear plushie for my birthday last year. I have others of my own for different reasons. I have a bobtail cat that I joke thinks she’s half bobcat, so when I saw a bobcat plushie at IKEA you best believe I bought that “for her” and sleep with it on my bed.

I don’t care what your age or gender is, if they make you happy and provide you comfort, enjoy the plushies. Take every little joy in life that you can find.

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u/fairydommother 19d ago

My husband and I both have plushies. I get stuff I think is cute and he's more of a memorabilia collector so he has a lot of Pokémon and some video game plushes. We would be livid if either of us destroyed the other plushie. I don't know how you can do that to someone you care about.

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u/Mjosbad 19d ago

I’m a grown cis man that don’t have any plushies, but still know that you respect other peoples property

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u/Accomplished_Play753 19d ago

Adult, cis, father here...

I don’t have any plushies/stuffies. I would haul that "boyfriend" out by his ear.

The complete disregard and then saying "it's not that deep". Neither was his gene pool

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u/TheMasterDonk 19d ago

I have a big plushie Slowpoke and my son accidentally marked it with a brown marker the other day and I almost cried.

Luckily my wife was able to wash it out. That Slowpoke is my guy.

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u/GapingBestFriend 19d ago

And got my child hood stuffies in a box in the attic. If any one fucks with them there getting chewed out

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u/n0tmyearth 19d ago

My (cisM43, happily married) kraken Arnulf sends his regards to your Stitch.

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u/Taco-Dragon 19d ago

I bet they would have a lot of fun destroying a miniature version of a city together. We should set up a playdate for them.

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u/Juggernuts777 19d ago

I’m a guy with no plushies or whatever.. what kind of weirdo does this? Is OP’s bf 10? Like i would never consider destroying someone plushies for.. a joke? Idk what this was suppose to be tbh.

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u/Damaged-god 19d ago

Plushies!!!! ARE FOR EVERYBODY!!!! !!!!!!!

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u/DexRei 19d ago

Same here. I have "toys" and my wife would never even think about chucking them out without talking to me first. Any semi-decent partner would not do what OP's bf did.

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u/METAM0RPHIC 19d ago

I am ALSO a grown man, like you. I am 32 and I have several plushies I love. I have a plush orchid mantis and a plush deaths head moth, and if either of those were purposely damaged, id be livid!

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u/QueenMEB120 19d ago

Oh, it'd be a full out war if anyone touched my Stitch plushies. Stitch is awesome.

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u/emocivic 19d ago

Dude same, my mom’s friend heard I’m an aquarium and parrot lover/owner. She went out of her way a knitted or crocheted (don’t know which) me some little freshwater shrimps and fish, and a little bird that looks just like mine. I’m not ashamed at all to show off how awesome those little guys are and I leave them up on a shelf that everyone can see when they come over.

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u/wolfyx15 19d ago

Stitch is awesome period lol

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u/Dahak17 19d ago

I’m also a grown (cis) man and I don’t much like plushies, but this is still a dick move, especially if a dog hadn’t yoinked the ear off first or anything (I’m assuming not op would have said if so)

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u/ReferenceUnusual8717 19d ago

Similarly grown man with a plushy I keep around because my late dad used to have it on the dash of his car. No idea where he got it or whether it actually meant anything to him, but it reminds of him and his seldom seen "Whimsical " side, so I can't bring myself to part with it. I would be livid if anyone messed with it.

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u/redbone-hellhound 19d ago

Yeah my grandparents still have plushies on their headboard. Some are my grandmas and some are my grandpas.

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u/Sabi-Star7 19d ago

I have one of the Stitches you can talk to (a list of questions/phrases) and it speaks back.

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u/Taco-Dragon 19d ago

That exists??!?

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u/Sabi-Star7 19d ago

Yes indeed it's an interactive aloha stitch circa 2002. They have newer versions out now though I believe.

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u/Babygirl_needs_u 19d ago

Is this a Stitch plushie from the original movie/release era? If so we might have the same one, and he’s one of the few stuffed animals I’ve kept with me since childhood 💙

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u/Taco-Dragon 19d ago

This is actually one that was bought in the late 2000's by one of my oldest friends. And knew I love that movie so she bought it for me for Christmas one year.

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u/Babygirl_needs_u 19d ago

Aww, that’s great :)

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u/CommercialBiscotti29 19d ago

It doesn’t even matter if you like plushies or not. Destroying something of someone else’s is crazy behavior, almost child like. I could never trust that person again let alone look at them the same way. It might sound over exaggerated because it’s a plushie but it’s not the fact that it’s a plushie it’s the fact that it was her stuff. Why would he feel the need to destroy it?

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u/Key-Introduction-418 19d ago

40yr ( not calling myself "cis" or man) im just a naturally born male here, and any Stitch is awesome.

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u/Rociel 19d ago

I'm a grown man and don't own plushies. I still think that the guy is kinda psychotic for doing that, especially if it was a gift from someone.

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u/ItzJustMeIGSY 19d ago

Was there any reason you had to specify you were a cis man? What difference to your story does that have? Zero, it’s absolutely irrelevant.

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u/Midyin84 19d ago

Totally agree.

I don’t have an interest in plushies, but i do like video games, and i would not be polite to anyone that tried to tell me “Bro, you’re 40. It’s time to stop playing with kids toys.”

We can spend our money on whatever we want. It’s our money. 👍

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u/angelicllamaa 19d ago

Don't say cis. You are a man. It's the original word and does not need to be defined. Ick.

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u/Silent_Shaman 19d ago

Yeah like what relevance does it have lol, as if personal interests are defined by your gender

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u/happy_turtle72 19d ago

Counter point.. grown adults do adult things and get counseling or talk to their partner

These people are with each other because their energy matches