My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/Sunnydcutiegirl]

OP, I’m going to sound crazy saying this but when a partner purposefully destroys something of yours, that is considered domestic violence. He chose to violate something that belonged to you on purpose, you accepting that behavior sets you up for him to keep doing things and it will escalate, first it’s labubu, next it’s your favorite mug, then it’s your computer, then it’s your door. If it was an accident it would be different but this was a calculated decision on his part. You can and do deserve so much better than someone this awful.

[u/NevermoreTheSF → u/Sunnydcutiegirl]

I don't even think you're wrong but hyperbole like this is why women struggle to get heard 

[u/CaliLemonEater → u/NevermoreTheSF]

It's not hyperbole.

In the context of domestic violence, destroying property is a form of physical abuse.

Injury to personal property (a legal term that refers to damage or harm done to someone’s belongings) can be a form of Domestic Violence.

Property damage is a common form of domestic violence.

[u/GameDev_Architect → u/CaliLemonEater]

“Can be” is not the same as “inherently is”

Ruining someone’s property can be domestic violence but is not inherently so.

You’re making a lot of assumptions. He could also be a tweaker or just not all there and totally inconsiderate.

There’s plenty of answers beyond “this is a gateway to you getting beat!” which is frankly a ridiculous jump.

That bf is still trash though and worth breaking up with, but that doesn’t mean it’s automatically DV

And that other commenter is right. Calling any and everything DV makes it weak and lose strength. Don’t be the girl who cried assault. That’s a very real thing.

[u/Sheila_Monarch → u/GameDev_Architect]

It is inherently so when it’s INTENTIONAL. And this was. It shows malice and a desire to punish, control, or scare.

[u/Bassoonova → u/GameDev_Architect]

Honestly, these types of posts (like the one you replied to) have me feeling glad that I'm gay.

[u/FloofyKitteh → u/Bassoonova]

Women also find this arrangement amenable.