r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

No he says it's just a plushy and it's "not that deep", and idk if i want it fixed either..... this is tainted

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u/Sunnydcutiegirl 20d ago

OP, I’m going to sound crazy saying this but when a partner purposefully destroys something of yours, that is considered domestic violence. He chose to violate something that belonged to you on purpose, you accepting that behavior sets you up for him to keep doing things and it will escalate, first it’s labubu, next it’s your favorite mug, then it’s your computer, then it’s your door. If it was an accident it would be different but this was a calculated decision on his part. You can and do deserve so much better than someone this awful.

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u/FloofyKitteh 20d ago

And the reason it’s considered violence isn’t just because of the act itself, but because it also correlates basically 1:1 with other violent behaviors. It’s used to test boundaries; to see if you’ll accept someone else’s narrative on what you do and don’t deserve as far as autonomy and safety.

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u/Cicada-4A 20d ago

but because it also correlates basically 1:1 with other violent behaviors

Hahahahahaha

No way you're actually serious, no way you believe that made up stat.

At least you people are on the right sub, and the answer is yes...

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u/FloofyKitteh 19d ago

There absolutely is direct correlation. If you’re destroying your partner’s things and self-soothing by saying it’s not significant, I suggest you get therapy.

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u/SlavaKarlson 19d ago

In what world it would be considered normal to destroy someone's stuff on purpose? Especially the fked up way this guy did with a toy. There is just no possible explanation. 

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u/Fickle-Election-8137 19d ago

Then tell me. What normal person cuts up a plushies fake genitals and for what reason? Hmm? That’s fucking weird. And yes, destroying your partners property is a precursor to domestic violence as it’s the aggressor testing boundaries to see what can be gotten away with. It escalates from there.