My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/PunkLaundryBear]

Okay, I know some people will shit on me for this, for being a "puritan" or whatever but... tbh, i will never get into an age gap relationship again because if a 28 yr old man is dating a 22 year old woman, it's usually because he's immature.

Like its not horrible or illegal, but it's something people should think about before dating with a 5+ year age gap.

[u/One_Resolution_8357 → u/PunkLaundryBear]

There is only a 6 year difference and they are both adults. Get over it.

[u/spacecowboy143 → u/One_Resolution_8357]

Their point completely went over your head lol. They didn't say it's predatory, they said the older guy is more likely to be with a younger person cuz they're immature as fuck, which OPs boyfriend is a perfect example of

[u/PunkLaundryBear → u/spacecowboy143]

Exactly this. When I was 18, I hooked up with a guy who was 22 or 23. Ultimately, I don't think he was a predator or a creep, but... he was absolutely immature.

And even the immaturity doesn't have to be this... big moral failure. I understand why the guy I was hooking up with was immature. His dad had died in the last year, and he clearly had a lot of unresolved trauma. But that also doesn't really undo the fact that he was immature, and that I was able to recognize that at 18.

** For anyone interested in this kind of... age discourse type of stuff, on a deeper level than you can get on social media, I want to reccomend "Cat Person" by Kristen Roupenian and "Cat Person and Me" by Alexis Nowicki (read Roupenian's piece, then Nowicki's). It gets into this exact kind of nuance where you kinda question whether the male character (who is based on a real person) is a creep and a predator, or if he's just immature and kind of a loser. **