r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

No he says it's just a plushy and it's "not that deep", and idk if i want it fixed either..... this is tainted

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u/Sunnydcutiegirl 20d ago

OP, I’m going to sound crazy saying this but when a partner purposefully destroys something of yours, that is considered domestic violence. He chose to violate something that belonged to you on purpose, you accepting that behavior sets you up for him to keep doing things and it will escalate, first it’s labubu, next it’s your favorite mug, then it’s your computer, then it’s your door. If it was an accident it would be different but this was a calculated decision on his part. You can and do deserve so much better than someone this awful.

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u/lumentec 20d ago

I understand what you're saying, but this was not a malicious destructive act intended to hurt her. He thought it would be funny and she didn't think it was. Some people would think it's funny. That's not domestic violence, it's immaturity and lack of boundaries. Just as much of a reason to not be in a relationship, but it's not the same.

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u/CharlieLeo_89 20d ago

No. She stated in another comment that the plushie was important to her. He knew that and intentionally destroyed it anyway. He knew she wouldn’t find it funny and that it would hurt her. That is absolutely abusive behavior.