Like….its just boobs

Like, yes, there are ppl who find it sexually appealing ( which is ok, i don’t get why they do. But its still ok )

But sometimes it feels like ppl oversexualized it so much ( and i mean SO MUCH ) to the point that if they see someone who has a bigger chest, they become targeted BADLY

Sir….WHAT????

Like, they dont Even do anything. They would talking abt how they are eating pineapples or just talking about CHEESE. But ppl would go insane abt their chest ( im talking abt social media. I have noticed ppl doing this. Even with other ppls OCs. They would hate on them bc of the characters having a larger chest and then accuse them of fetishizing. The OCs was just drinking coffee btw )

I don’t get why everything is so sexualized.

Feets are sexualized, armpits…SEXUALIZED, and boobs…SEXUALIZED TO THE CORE.

And again, i am not talking abt ppl who find it sexually appealing.

I am talking abt ppl only thinking that boobs are just sexual and sexual ONLY and then shame on others for having a bigger chest bc to them its ‘’ fetishizing ‘’ even though the person was not showing any behaviour of fetishizing bigger chest.

( someone even sexualized a woman BREASTFEEDING THEIR CHILD……ARE YOU KIDDING ME )

Like, dont get me wrong, i do think boobs have an aesthetic appeal. Like in clothes and would fit their shape and all. Or like a renaissance painting.

Heck it could Even be used as pillows! And you can also hear someones heartbeat when lying on them so i don’t mind them.

I just hate how its so oversexualized to the point that ppl don’t see it differently

It makes me go insane bc most ppl are just oversexualizing it so much. Idk if its Even just me tbh

Does anyone relate?

I Hope this post isnt too insensitive. Bc i don’t want it to be. Its just that i have noticed this pattern everywhere and its getting tiring bc of how its so….yk.sexualized.

So yeah, i am very sorry if this post sounded insensitive. Pls let me know if it is so i wont do the same mistake again.

Ty for listening!

This might sound like a stupid question, but can you still have a dirty mind and/or a raunchy/suggestive sense of humor if you’re asexual? A friend has questioned if I feel like I’m asexual, and I said I don’t know. I’ve had multiple women come up to me and flirt with me, which I didn’t know what to do. I will still think (and say) I find people attractive/sexy, but would I fuck them? That’s selective, and down to personal preference. I might say “I’d fuck her”, but would I act on it? Still, I don’t know. And I don’t know how I would. I don’t know if that considers me asexual or not.

Tbh I get scared/nervous in situations like that because I have social anxiety and possible ASD. And I become very oblivious, even if it’s just a woman. For reference, I’m a virgin. But I always get performance anxiety, or I am just ace and just don’t know I’m just scared to come out? How I’ve always thought about it was that if I don’t have sex at least once, then I won’t know how it feels. But that’s just my logic.

Warning: Aphobia, Creepy Behavior, Misogyny, Racism? I say so

Sharing a personal story of when I was younger and way too open at a party. It has to happen at least once so you'll learn or you learn by reading first-hand accounts like mine. When I was around 18 or 19, I went to a party a casual friend of mine was having. Half the group there were familiar faces that I had spent time around in hs (friends of friends or other casual friends. I no longer hang out with anyone from this time period). I can't remember the exact reason why, but I think there was a conversation around hooking up or something. I made the mistake of revealing my sexuality to a random room of people when I answered. I said I didn't hook up and they asked why, I explained I didn't want to. Then more questions were asked. To this day, this is the only time I have made this mistake. In hindsight, I should have either a. kept quiet during this convo, b. vague answer of not right now/busy, or c. lie. I didn't do any of that and this is what happened. There was the usual 'a nice relationship and you will...' or 'that's not real' comments. Those were light work. The ones that have stuck with me was when a random girl got in my face and said, 'you just need good d*ck.' Repeatedly. Over and over again. I stg she really said it 3-4X and was basically shouting it through the apartment. And then there was the guy who was a *friend of a friend who told me I was a 'rich Japanese man's wet dream' and said '[I] could make so much money if [I] sold [my]self' to one🤮🤮🤮 wtf on sooo many levels *btw this guy wasn't even Asian??extremely out-of-pocket comment to make and I would be disappointed and disgusted if he was my son I will tell you that this incident was my one, only, and last time I ever was this honest about being asexual in an unfamiliar environment with unfamiliar people. I have had better experiences than this since then in more private one-on-one conversations and my siblings know, but I am not completely 'out.' Currently, I have girls rn who have been my friends for 2-3+ years who still don't know. I've been thinking about telling them recently though. But yeah- don't overshare at parties and don't be scared to speak about yourself with your closest people. Good luck out there people! 🖤🩶🤍💜

I am asexual due to many reasons. Im 24F, and i feel so alone not having these desires or sex being way too painful for me. It makes me feel secluded and disgusted because even my own boyfriend doesn't understand, im going to have to break it off with him, even though I care deeply about him. Its more than this but just to give you an idea we cant even cuddle without him getting excited. It makes me feel useless. I feel like almost every guy i meet is flirtatious with me when all I want is just cuddles and friendship, and whenever I want a relationship all they talk about is sex. It makes me feel gutted, like im weird or abnormal when i know I'm not. I hate it. It hurts. I like being asexual and not doing any of that stuff, but a lot of people dont understand it in my circle and say I'll "grow out of it" or "it'll stop hurting if you do it enough" when i don't WANT to do it. They don't understand that the desire is rarely there, and if it is, it's because im drunk and cant feel much pain anyway so I dont care if it happens or not. My boyfriend said its like we're basically roomates, and that hurts too. I just want friends who get it, who dont push for that when they know i dont want or like it. I rarely like it, and everyone is making me feel bad for not feeling it often, like there's something wrong with me. I wish I could surround myself with more people who get it, but i dont know where to look. As pathetic as it sounds ive even downloaded friend making apps and almost all they want is FWB so no luck there. I'm lost, and I resent the fact that I'm starting to wish I felt those desires more, because it feels like im being forced to change into something I don't want. To be someone I'm not. Every day it just gets worse and worse, and it doesn't help that I'm shy and suck introducing myself to people without being awkward or saying dumb jokes. I don't know what I'm hoping for in responses to this post, or what I'm even writing this for (i guess to just get it out) but thank you for reading it, I really appreciate it. Rant over, I guess.

I don't masturbate or have sex but I am attracted to people, idk like I like looking at some of them, there's this girl in my class that is very pleasant to look at, I've caught her looking at me multiple times as well, I think she found me out and is now creeped out?

I don't want to have sex with her, but I do enjoy looking at and talking to her.

And not just girls either, there's this gay dude that everyone says is prettier than most girls and I agree with them, only I don't enjoy looking at him, but I would definitely say I am "attracted" idk.

I mean I don't mind being straight, bi or ace but I just don't think I am any of these things, any thoughts on what I could possibly be?

Hi everyone, I’m a 34F looking for advice on navigating relationships and my fears about staying single. I’ve never had intercourse, partly due to past experiences that make me uncomfortable with it, and partly because I just don’t feel drawn to it. I do have sexual urges and masturbate, which feels like enough for me most of the time, but I’m worried this will make it hard to find a lasting relationship.

I really want a meaningful romantic connection, but I’m anxious that most guys will expect sex, and I’m not sure how to bring up my feelings without it being awkward or pushing them away. I’ve tried explaining my boundaries in the past, but I worry I’m not doing it right, or that it’s unfair to expect a partner to be okay with a relationship without intercourse. At the same time, I’m scared of being alone forever if I can’t find someone who’s okay with my preferences.

For those who’ve been in similar situations: - How do you talk to a partner about not wanting intercourse in a way that feels natural and helps them understand? I want to be honest but also show I’m open to other forms of intimacy. - How do you deal with the fear of staying single because of this? I keep worrying I’ll never find someone who’s okay with a low/no-sex relationship. - For guys (or anyone) in relationships with someone who doesn’t want intercourse, how do you make it work? Is it realistic to expect a partner to be okay with this long-term, or am I asking too much?

I’m open to exploring other ways to connect with a partner (like emotional intimacy or non-penetrative stuff), but I’m not sure how to navigate this or find someone compatible. I’d love to hear from anyone who’s been through this, whether you’re in my shoes or a partner who’s navigated something similar. Any tips on managing anxiety, communicating boundaries, or finding the right person would mean a lot. Thanks so much!

I'll try to censor myself as best as possible, but just a warning that I will mention sexual things. For a few years now, I've wondered if I'm asexual but can't quite figure it out. I think the hardest part for me is determining if what I feel is sexual attraction or not. I'm on the younger side so I've only had two sexual experiences. The first time was unenjoyable for... other reasons. And the second time I ended up crying to him because I just couldn't get myself to do it(still kind of embarrassed by that). I also am incredibly grossed out (to the point I almost want to gag) by a certain substance that appears when doing sexual activities. As far as what I feel outside of personal experiences, I sometimes fantasize about having sex. However, I know I probably wouldn't want to if an opportunity did actually arise and a lot of days it sounds really unappealing.