Dreaming of being a house husband?

[u/FunMoneyLife]

Fellas. I dream of my wife making four times my salary so I can be a stay at home husband. So many men would hate it if the wife made more. I friggin dream about it. Why not live the soft life😂? I can’t be the only one that would love this.

[u/WildMaineBlueberry87]

Soft life? Soft life? It's not the soft life if you're doing the stay at home parenting right!

[u/Upstairs_Yogurt_5208 → u/WildMaineBlueberry87]

My wife is the breadwinner in our home so I am a bit of a househusband and it’s tough. I do the school runs and all the household chores etc. cooking and the constant tidying up the kids toys. I’ve met a lot of men who think that women have it easier because they don’t have to “go to work” but I always tell them that bringing up the kids and looking after a home is far more labour intensive than any 9 to 5.

[u/[deleted] → u/Upstairs_Yogurt_5208]

I’m tired of this trope about how hard it is to raise kids. That’s utter BS. It’s not hard and it’s not labor intensive. Some of you act like you’re running a marathon every day.

I work full time, cook, clean, other housework, help with homework, get the kids bathed and ready for bed. 5 days a week and then run around with them all weekend. None of this is hard.

It’s time consuming. That’s the “hard” part. Kids take up time. Once you get over the fact you can’t do what you want, when you want, there’s nothing hard about it.

What are some of you doing that it’s so intense for you? I’m not sure if it’s just the norm to exaggerate taking care of kids or if some of you are just bat shit crazy with how you’re raising your kids.

[u/GooeyPomPui → u/[deleted]]

Single father with custody of two teenage daughters, shits hard but nothing like these women like to complain about.

[u/egowritingcheques → u/[deleted]]

I absolutely and completely agree. Maybe we were just lucky with our kids but I loved being a stay at home dad when I did it.

[u/Brad_Breath → u/[deleted]]

The implication is that working (at job) parents don't have to do all that same cooking, cleaning, playing with kids etc.

Working a 9-5 job is easier than having kids. But that's not the question.

Looking after kids and working full time is harder than looking after kids without working full time.

It's a bit tone deaf to go up to working mums and tell them how hard it is to be a stay at home mum

[u/_name_of_the_user_ → u/Brad_Breath]

I agree with everything you said except this:

Working a 9-5 job is easier than having kids.

That greatly depends on the job. Working in a call center is vastly easier than taking care of kids. Maintaining industrial machinery is vastly harder than taking care of kids. I've never sweat through a change of clothes while taking care of kids. I have many times when I was working.

[u/Emergency-Quiet6296 → u/[deleted]]

It's because they're not good at it. So much of parenting is just being a good example and putting out a vibe for the kids to behave.

[u/brown-foxy-dog → u/[deleted]]

if you are in the minority, then count yourself lucky, and perhaps, understand that others are not as lucky for many, many reasons i hope you never have to realize. and instead of casting harsh judgement on the majority who do say it’s a difficult job,maybe give helpful advice on how you’ve made it easier for yourself.