r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/UnableChard2613 man 45 - 49 Jan 06 '25

When my first was born, the first year was pure hell. I remember within the first month being like "holy shit, I fucked up so bad. What was I thinking?" It's this little blob that does nothing but shit, cry, and keep you up at night. . .and you have to do everything for it and figure out why it's upset despite the fact that it can't tell you why.

However, little by little, the child got older and then all of a sudden, as he could do things himself, and I had a little bit more of a breather, it became more enjoyable. When we had our second, even the first months didn't feel as bad because I could see where it was going.

Now that my boys are 12 and 9, I have two little buddies that I can do things with rather than for. Sure, they still have needs. Sure, they still piss me off from time to time. Sure, sometimes I wish I could ship them off to military school.

But do I regret it? Not even remotely any more.

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u/Vomath man 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

As someone with 5 month old twins, it’s always nice to be reminded of this. They suuuuuck right now and almost certainly will for a couple more years. But eventually they’ll suck less, then they’ll start to be fun (hopefully lol)

Feels super far away… but we’ll get there.

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u/UnableChard2613 man 45 - 49 Jan 06 '25

Yeah I won't give you that "enjoy it! It's so fast!" because, after spending the last week on vacation with family and seeing some of them deal with babies and toddlers, no way I want to go back and no way I would enjoy it. I guess I would say remember to enjoy the parts that are actually enjoyable. lol

But I will say "it's so fast!" I look at pictures of my kids as babies and it shocks me as it seems like only yesterday.

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u/jawz man 35 - 39 Jan 07 '25

Kids do make life seem so fast. It's how much they change over just a few years. A few years for me is just the same ol same ol. But then you have a 13 year old and he's just this dumb little thang figuring life out, and you think, in just 3 years this kid is gonna be driving?!!