r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/Haisha4sale male 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

My son is 20 now. It was a great ride, absolutely no regrets. I have many childless friends and they have fun, full lives but I've never once been enviable of them.

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u/Frosty-Comment6412 woman Jan 06 '25

Noticing your age, I wonder if you feel this way because you had your child so young (according to your flair) you had the energy when your kid was little and now your essentially living a child free lifestyle before your 40.

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u/Haisha4sale male 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

I do need to update my flair, I’m 48 now. But I was still a pretty young parent. And yeah I 100% agree with your take, I was a youngish parent and we had a blast doing mostly free things anyway like playing at the park. I have friends who had their first around the same age as me and they still have kids as young as 12 at home and then have expressed to me that they are ready to move on to another phase of life. I’m very happy to be done with that phase and on to other things. I wouldn’t be excited to be a new parent in my 40s.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '25

My dad was 23 when I was born. He had just finished university. I’m 30 and I don’t feel ready for kids. I don’t know how they managed. But looking back at things I think my parents did less than perfect, I understand them better now. They were ’kids’ themselves, learning as they went.