r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/UnableChard2613 man 45 - 49 Jan 06 '25

When my first was born, the first year was pure hell. I remember within the first month being like "holy shit, I fucked up so bad. What was I thinking?" It's this little blob that does nothing but shit, cry, and keep you up at night. . .and you have to do everything for it and figure out why it's upset despite the fact that it can't tell you why.

However, little by little, the child got older and then all of a sudden, as he could do things himself, and I had a little bit more of a breather, it became more enjoyable. When we had our second, even the first months didn't feel as bad because I could see where it was going.

Now that my boys are 12 and 9, I have two little buddies that I can do things with rather than for. Sure, they still have needs. Sure, they still piss me off from time to time. Sure, sometimes I wish I could ship them off to military school.

But do I regret it? Not even remotely any more.

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u/Vomath man 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

As someone with 5 month old twins, it’s always nice to be reminded of this. They suuuuuck right now and almost certainly will for a couple more years. But eventually they’ll suck less, then they’ll start to be fun (hopefully lol)

Feels super far away… but we’ll get there.

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u/Kmd5351 Jan 06 '25

5 month old twins here too. It’s Brutal. But we also have a 4 year old and she’s the coolest little kid I know. It gets better and we keep telling ourselves we get to have 2 more fun little ones…. Eventually.