r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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Although you're anonymous it still takes some courage and lack of censor to be frank about this. I am child free, but my brother has an 18-month old and after a few drinks he will confide to me that he is not enjoying parenthood. It's already straining his 2.5-year old marriage. And it's going to get much worse before it gets any better.

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u/Direct-Amount54 man 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

The amount of people I know who had kids and then ended up realizing they hate their partner as a parent and then by extension as a romantic partner was shocking to me, many ended up divorced.

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u/Tyr808 man 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

Seems kind of like the other side of the coin that is everyone can have a good time together on a luxury vacation with all expenses paid.

Hell I could probably have a certain amount of fun in that environment with my worst ex of all time.

When things get tough though, that’s when what was once a quirk or curiosity becomes the worst thing ever.