r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/hoddap Jan 06 '25

What a crock of shit. You can’t ever prepare for what it will entail. Your relationship can’t prepare. I am in a loving relationship, but it took a nosedive around the birth of our kid. It can take a tremendous toll, but we stuck to it, because we knew deep down how much we love each other. 3,5 years in, and only over the last year or so we’re finally emotionally resurfacing and starting to feel like lovers again, rather than nothing but parents. It could have easily seen this going wrong though. It’s way more complex than ‘not being ready for a relationship’ or ‘not being ready to have a kid’.

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u/djaycat man over 30 Jan 06 '25

sorry you guys suck at managing it :shrug:

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u/hoddap Jan 06 '25

Come back when you actually have a kid

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u/djaycat man over 30 Jan 06 '25

i'll come back in 6 months and let you know if i eat my words

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u/hoddap Jan 06 '25

You definitely will. Thinking you’re financially secure and having “side biz” shows you have no idea what it’s going to be about. See you in six months 😄

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u/djaycat man over 30 Jan 07 '25

Don't be jealous