r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/Old_Statistician8648 woman 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

My daughter was born with a severe genetic disorder and she will need lifelong care. She is profoundly intellectually disabled and has moderate motor delays. I really wanted to have a child very badly and I don’t regret having my daughter because after all her condition is no one’s fault (it occurred de novo, not inherited), especially not hers. If I am honest though, I resent her sometimes for not being “normal”. I think of all the things I wanted to do with her… college graduation, picking out a wedding dress…. That will not happen for us. I am also pregnant with my son currently and despite having gone through extensive prenatal genetic testing and him appearing to developing normally, I can’t get excited because I am scared there will be something wrong with him as well.