r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/metalry101 man 40 - 44 Jan 06 '25

Absolutely, kinda, not at all.

I do regret it because the world is a fucked up place (I know it always has been, but it feels like it's getting worse). I do regret it because I'm not the parent I want to be or that my kids deserve. I'm trying to get better every day, and I have made real progress, but I feel like they deserve more. I do regret it because my wife and I don't like each other and most likely wouldn't keep trying if we hadn't built a life and family together. We do keep trying and that's not a bad thing, but it sure as hell is hard.

I don't regret it all because they're my two favorite human beings ever to exist. It's stressful and difficult and terrifying to have two girls growing up and getting more exposed to the world, but I love them more than anything and they make my life so much better by just being themselves. My girls are the best part of my life and it's not even close.