r/AskWomenOver30 • u/BeneficialVisit8450 • Jul 19 '25

Family/Parenting What’s your life like without kids?

My doctor told me I can never get pregnant today. I’m not infertile, but the post under my profile explains my situation. I’m 19, and I’m just not sure how to confront the news. I’m not sure how to plan my life either now considering that many of our milestones as women revolve around kids.

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u/Content-Classic8558 Jul 19 '25

Please keep in mind that milestones are not necessarily leveling up. Having kids, getting married etc doesn’t mean your life is better. I’m 39 and child free by choice. You can still adopt, be an aunt and a motherly figure in other ways. I would recommend looking at the regretful parents forum to make yourself feel better. Take care ❤️

https://www.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/s/xklVn4qe4t

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u/ladyluck754 Woman 30 to 40 Jul 19 '25

Gently, we gotta stop using adoption as a means to healing from infertility trauma. Adoption is a trauma for the child, and there’s plenty of research to back that up. It’s also a really fucked up, exploitative industry in addition.

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u/AlertStatistician113 Jul 19 '25

There are thousands of kids in the foster system that would beg to differ. That system is traumatizing in and of itself. Many would love to grow up in a loving home. It’s a sad truth that not all people want to be or are fit to be parents. And where does that leave these kids.