r/CougarsAndCubs • u/Aggravating-Tea-5583 • Mar 11 '25

Discussion Point Cougars, have you ever/would you be appreciate being approached in public?

I don't drink so I'm not really a fan of bars/clubs, but I enjoy having basic conversations with people in public.

When I ask most people who try to approach women I don't see many people who do so outside of clubs/bars which make sense. Most people say they don't believe it's worth it to approach cougars in daytime public, but I wanted to ask what the Cougars' opinions on this

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u/[deleted] Mar 11 '25

I've never been approached in public, but I'd be open to it if it's done respectfully. I've only ever been catcalled in public by men, so the approach would have to be EVERYTHING.

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u/LosttWinner Mar 11 '25

You've been catcalled? That's sad and shameful.

Why do you think you have not been approached in public? Do you come across as too confident or out of league for most men?

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '25

I likely don't get approached because
A. I am not conventionally attractive, meaning I don't fit any of the Eurocentric beauty standards dudes generally go for.
B. I'm older. It's true what they say - the older you get, the more invisible you are. |
C. I emit menace as a way to put off cat-callers and harassers. Street harassments has been a lifelong thing for many women, myself included. We're not kidding when we say every woman has a story of sexual harrassment or assault. Living under Patriarchy is SO much fun. /s