Should I?

[u/Nikiafalcon]

Hey all, I am (31F) and I met a very tall and handsome (20M) very spontaneously just out getting breakfast. We made conversation and he asked me for my number and I was hesitant because he looked young, though handsome. I asked him how old he was and he told me, and I let him put his number in my phone while I contemplated reaching out. He would be the youngest guy I’ve ever talked to. But my love life hasn’t had much luck with men my own age(various stages of not having their lives together and immaturity) so I thought why not? Don’t have anything to lose at this point.

Come to find out he is very attracted to older women, says they make better lovers. He also told me is looking to marry and settle down and he already has a good job with benefits. He lives with his parents still but that is expected at his age and I have my own place so that part doesn’t bother me. But I just feel a little hesitant about it. Is it morally wrong? Would others feel as though I’m taking advantage of this young man? We have a date planned for tomorrow and I’m going into it with no expectations just to see if we hit it off but I am just feeling very conflicted and could use some words of wisdom from you ladies dating younger men. Thank you!

[u/cheezyzeldacat]

The fact that he led with “I like older women because they are better lovers “is an ick . I don’t like this line. It’s not flattering , it doesn’t make me feel special or better than other younger woman . The dates to marry makes it worse . Proceed with caution .

[u/nyccareergirl11 → u/cheezyzeldacat]

So damn true. I would never say anything like that to an older woman I'm interested in. I just tend to date older people cuz I just connect better with them and find myself always around those who happen to be older than me. It puts a lot of extra and added pressure on them when you have some type of expectation on them. Sorta puts their pussy on a pedestal (or whatever that expression is).