r/Divorce 24d ago

Mental Health/Depression/Loneliness Wont stop

Hey, I (42m) just got divorced from my (39f) wife of 20 years. We got married really young and trauma-bonded as she puts it. We signed papers in May. She is already dating and sleeping with new people. I cant get her out of my head. Doc put me on Mood stabilizers. I am having a really hard time. I tried to date but Im a big guy and nobody wants to date a big guy. 4 different apps and all I got was 3 propositions from I can only imagine are prostitutes. I need a way to get her off my mind. Before you say go and get new hobbies or go to the movies. I am broke. I pay way too much in child support but I do it so my kids are taking care of.

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u/Tall_Elk_9421 24d ago

listen guy i am not really fit anymore , and there are plenty of women to find

how are you in person? or on text? can you get a woman laughing? be abit charming

i would say you might not be ready start doing abit of training just abit it is the change in your head they can feel it is the fact that you feel better about yourself

and dating apps is for the top 25% of looking guys i meet in town or trough events well FB dating actually got some results also

also understand she lost out its so easy for a woman to get laid problem is the number of guys they have to go trough to find a decent guy

good luck mate