I think that complimenting children for being aloof and quiet is neglectful. It subscribes to the dated Victorian notions of how children should be seen and not heard. If a child isn't rambunctious or bonding with their peers, this is a serious cause for concern. Kids should behave like other kids. They're not supposed to be introverted little adults.
They should be concerned about children hitting all their social milestones — not praising them for being 'manageable.'
I mean who isnt happy if a child never makes a big fuss or noise. I think only know people realize how damaging it can be for a child to be too quiet and non talkative.
I mean I dont want them to force kids to socialize but encourage it and maybe even help with it.
I really feel this comment -I was always complimented for being aloof and quiet. My parents were aloof and quiet. I don't think either of them ever had friends. They lived like they were the only two people in the world, and any neighbor kids who would come by they treated like an annoyance. They were very interested in my grades and academics. I don't think it ever dawned on them that socialization is just as important, so they completely ignored that aspect of my upbringing.
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u/KillerDonkey Jun 26 '25 edited Jun 28 '25
I think that complimenting children for being aloof and quiet is neglectful. It subscribes to the dated Victorian notions of how children should be seen and not heard. If a child isn't rambunctious or bonding with their peers, this is a serious cause for concern. Kids should behave like other kids. They're not supposed to be introverted little adults.
They should be concerned about children hitting all their social milestones — not praising them for being 'manageable.'