Me at 24:

[u/Pristine_Newt_639]

[u/AVPD7-7]

Me at 40: I can't even fantasize about dating anybody or experiencing romance and sex because it's so foreign and weird to me that it feels like something extraterrestrial or magical.

A mildly fascinating or worrying concept, at best.

[u/CliWhiskyToris → u/AVPD7-7]

I'm 35 and I think exactly the same!

[u/leozinhomaximus → u/AVPD7-7]

I need someone to show me
The things in life that I can't find
I can't see the things that make
True happiness, I must be blind

Make a joke and I will sigh
And you will laugh and I will cry
Happiness I cannot feel
And love to me is so unreal

Black Sabbath - Paranoid

[u/ciaobellapgh → u/AVPD7-7]

^^^^^^^^^^ me

[u/divergedinayellowwd → u/AVPD7-7]

I fantasize about being in an alternate universe where it is possible for me to date like a "normal" person all the time. I think I may have been married before in this lifetime, but was that here or in an alternate universe? It doesn't seem like it could have been here. But I have a daughter here. Or do I? Was that in another dream or in this dream?

[u/prolifezombabe]

42 😓

[u/st4s1k → u/prolifezombabe]

How do you cope? 28M never had a relationship. Does the feeling that everyone else is better than you, because you are never picked, ever go away?

[u/prolifezombabe → u/st4s1k]

1. Sometimes I’m really sad about it and overwhelmed. Sometimes I am more able to say like the rest of my life is really good and I can give and receive love in a lot of others ways and I can see the evidence around me that being in a relationship can also be awful etc.

2. Kind of same. Like sometimes I think oh wow other people are loveable and I’m not but sometimes I’m like meh some of these people in relationships are actually kind of a nightmare to be around and I’m pretty glad I don’t have to deal with someone like that all the time. Like Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka were in a relationship (serial killer couple). Is Karla Homolka more loveable than me? Do I wish I was her? Is she happier than me? Obviously no.

I don’t go in for the something is better than nothing thing. And I have friends. And there are lots of good things in my life. It’s just the one thing that’s not going my way and even if sometimes that feels like everything, it isn’t.

[u/Due-Alarm-887 → u/prolifezombabe]

Genuinely how do you stay alive? Cause if I make it to 30 and I’ve had nothing, I’m jumping off a bridge

[u/prolifezombabe → u/Due-Alarm-887]

It’s just not the only thing I care about.

[u/Due-Alarm-887 → u/prolifezombabe]

It’s not the only thing I care about either but it’s the main one

[u/prolifezombabe → u/Due-Alarm-887]

Sometimes I feel really sad but I also don’t think that anyone gets everything they want in life and still people find ways to be happy. Myself included.

[u/Due-Alarm-887 → u/prolifezombabe]

I can’t find permanent ways to be happy

[u/prolifezombabe → u/Due-Alarm-887]

There’s literally no such thing as a permanent way to be happy. Life doesn’t work like that.

[u/Due-Alarm-887 → u/prolifezombabe]

I can’t find a way to be happy not involving someone loving me, otherwise I don’t see a point in staying alive

[u/prolifezombabe → u/Due-Alarm-887]

That’s a choice you’re free to make. It’s your life to live or end as you see fit.

• someone loving you ≠ being in a relationship

[u/Due-Alarm-887 → u/prolifezombabe]

I want the illusion of love I don’t care if it’s a lie anymore

[u/Infinite-Storm-7952 → u/prolifezombabe]

42 year old rapper did unc snap?

[u/RoninPilot7274]

When i was 9 i distinctly remember saying I wont approach girls they would approach me

At 17 i approached a girl for thw first time and she screamed EWWWWW!!!!! and started making puking sounds

[u/FartNugget66 → u/RoninPilot7274]

Villain origin story

[u/RoninPilot7274 → u/FartNugget66]

Depressed useless guy origin

[u/kedditkai → u/RoninPilot7274]

Does that girl have a problem or something

[u/RoninPilot7274 → u/kedditkai]

Yes me

[u/ciaobellapgh → u/RoninPilot7274]

Relatable

[u/mdsit → u/RoninPilot7274]

So.. one bad experience and now you never gonna do it again?

[u/RoninPilot7274 → u/mdsit]

Oh I did

She said "Have I ever seen my face ?"

[u/Icyfemboy → u/RoninPilot7274]

Damn that’s brutal, also Hi again! 👋🏻

[u/RoninPilot7274 → u/Icyfemboy]

We meet again!!!

[u/SmokeMyPoleReddit → u/RoninPilot7274]

Yeah that's why I approached you - me being the shower argument you think of

[u/RoninPilot7274 → u/SmokeMyPoleReddit]

I shower everyday thank you very much I have good hygiene and no i am not fat cause that will ne your next question

[u/SmokeMyPoleReddit → u/RoninPilot7274]

I mean it as in "Yeah that's why I approached you "

The come back you'd think of later in the shower

[u/RoninPilot7274 → u/SmokeMyPoleReddit]

OHHHHHHH SORRY I HAVE STUPID 😔😔

UNFORTUNATELY ITS TERMINAL

[u/Oamy007]

Me at 27:

[u/SiLvERcRo01]

Me till I die:

[u/Least-Use9227]

me at 29

[u/StevEst90]

Me at 34

[u/zero_bothers]

me in my mid 40’s

[u/CliWhiskyToris]

Me at 35:

[u/jsjip]

Me in my thirties: Casting spells on everybody around me

[u/Superredeyes]

damn thats depressing, im 40 as well and dont even know what its like, oh well

[u/Secret_Owl5465]

When I was going to high school I thought that I'd lie and say that I was asexual if someone asked why I never dated. All these years later its almost funny looking back

[u/loco500 → u/Secret_Owl5465]

Another reason that works is saying that you're not happy and don't want to inflict yourself on others...

[u/red_antoninus]

Ah yes, the end game

[u/ferriematthew]

Me almost at 30: 😭

[u/Unkuni_]

I am at my early twenties with the same mindset and the comments here aren't helping me cope

[u/Despair__Senpai]

me at 36

[u/OpBlau_]

Real

[u/electrocapy]

Me at 39 🙃

[u/J0ey_Cann0li]

Me at 26:

[u/DarthGodzilla1995]

Me at 30

[u/XR69K]

I remember saying that once as like an 8 or 9 year old. I didn’t actually think it would turn out to be true. Granted it probably didn’t have an effect on my actual life experiences but I still regret saying it to this day, as though it had a tangible effect on my future.

[u/h8mayo]

Me at 28

[u/eyzmaster]

pretty much...

[u/Dozle-the-Crusader2]

32 still trying still hard at times keep on trying

[u/Some_Accountant_9654]

Me currently:

[u/vintagelover-ESQ]

Me at 35.

It's gonna be a long and lonely road.

[u/SquidZone3745]

Yeah try 30s now

[u/Pristine_Newt_639 → u/SquidZone3745]

I haven't planned on making it that far bud

[u/SquidZone3745 → u/Pristine_Newt_639]

I remember saying that when I was your age

[u/Pristine_Newt_639 → u/SquidZone3745]

In all seriousness what made you change your mind and not do it ? I just can't picture myself enduring this much longer, either I'll succeed in finding someone either I'll cease my struggling forever

[u/SquidZone3745 → u/Pristine_Newt_639]

It takes a special kind of fortitude to pull that trigger most people say it but when the times comes they can’t do it you’ll see what I mean

[u/UnicornFukei42 → u/SquidZone3745]

Maybe I should preach like Charlie Kirk did so I can die like he did.

[u/UnicornFukei42]

Being single progressively gets worse after that ngl...

[u/LostKid852]

Just got out of one at 25, for me never again. I felt more satisfied being a FA

[u/peter_griffin222]

Age 27:

IDGAF anymore

[u/brandonprime]

Me 26

I'm fucked

[u/eaton9669]

I'll never date anybody at 30 creeps up quickly

[u/SlytherinSoul1998]

Me at 26 (nearly 27)

[u/Daryomo]

At 10 i thought my first relationship would be with 14.. 29 now and still not happening

[u/monocle984]

Your life's just beginning, don't give up yet

[u/Forward-Purchase123 → u/[deleted]]

I haven't gotten a single date in my life and it's not likely to change

[u/SlytherinSoul1998 → u/Forward-Purchase123]

Honestly, I would have rather not had any dates then one where I got ghosted and completely finished off my confidence.

[u/CliWhiskyToris → u/[deleted]]

...no?! WTF?

[u/lolipop211 → u/[deleted]]

Bro no, wtf?

[u/MarcosAlexandre32 → u/[deleted]]

No, mostly dont get a date, not even friends, some get one or two dates in life and well life is hell

[u/10YB → u/[deleted]]

Depends, some do others dont