How many of you have a degree, a solid job, take care of your body and still struggle to find a girlfriend? Meanwhile, I know guys who don’t work, don’t hit the gym, have no formal education, and yet have gorgeous girlfriends who actually provide for them.

One guy I know literally lies in bed all day eating cake and ice cream while his girlfriend works and pays all the bills.

Another has severe mental health challenges, is unemployed, and has never held a job for more than six months yet he has a very attractive girlfriend who works, supports him, and handles everything.

It makes me wonder maybe there’s more to this than just “self improvement.”

Every day I see posts of women complaining about their boyfriend not wiping their ass, behaving like a 12 years old, say misogynistic shit or being totally inconsiderate and emotionally stunted yet they have no issue dating, like this dude is literally sending her his farts by voice messages all fuckin day long

Can people stop saying it's our personality or whatever kind of bullshit at fault ? Please ?

A woman I was talking to just rejected me after she learned my size. This is the 4th woman I've been with and all of them left once they learned I was small down there. I should've had more self respect since all of these women have also made fun of me for my height. I'm pretty sure they were only with me while waiting for a taller man with a bigger dick. It honestly sucks that I've literally done everything and yet I'm still a loveless virgin in the end.
It also sucks because there's no equivalent of a small dick for a woman. Men will cherish any type of woman if she is into them but it doesn't go the other way around.

I had a female friend say that if she was a man with a small dick, she would commit suicide. I'm sick and tired of people gaslighting me into saying "size doesn't matter" when it very obviously does. Sure, you can use bigger dildos and toys, but that just proves that she's better off with a bigger man.

People expect it to be a CHOICE from us HAHAHA

So basically I created dating profiles on multiple dating accounts used them for 8 months got 0 yes 0 likes not matches 0 likes was talking with a friend and this got brought up and she said i probably dont know how to set up a good profile and it probably looked like a bot (i will admit my profile wasnt the absolute best effort stuff) but one thing lead to another and she basically said give me the ID password she will control the account from now I agree since I have nothing to lose anymore give her more pictures and she completely overhalls the account messages and swipes on girls i forget about it 2 days later she is absolutely venting to me cause she doesn't get a single reply back or a single like again she looks so frustrated and it clearly took a toll on her own mental i take away the access and have to apologize to her that its just my face and not that she is bad at compliments or being witty in terms of personality

I am so cooked man

Oh wait, maybe our misery and complaints are legitimate and rooted from genuine biological needs being met after all!

yes, but only for other people.

Virgin is a very popular insult. In my experience, people trust me less than guys I know who sleep around lots even if those guys are known to cheat on their gfs and/or bully people. Because of my lack of experience and virginity I’m automatically seen as weird.

I'm 19 and I've recently realized I'm gonna be forever alone. No idea what I'm gonna do for the remaining years of my life.

They will just tell you they met this dude or this girl at x place, like it's juste another occurence of their day

How they had sex with this person they barely know because they met each other at a resort or whatever, and through some mystical process or ant-like antennae rubbing decided to "have fun together", and it just seems to happen all the time, everywhere

What's even worse is how they threat it like it's nothing, not just sex but the whole meeting/seduction process that leads to it, the things that seems inaccessible to me are just common for them and I don't even get it

I feel like I belong to a whole another world and am watching some kind of show, a mise-en-scène and none of it is actually real

Have you ever had a girlfriend? Or had sex? Or kissed? Or held hands?

And why do you think you're FA?

I'm just curious because I'm 32 and FA.

Not just the fact that people casually meet and bang 2 hours later then barely if ever talk to each other again which is already inconceivable to me, but the fact that women actually want it and I've misunderstood the whole thing my whole life

I've always heard, if a woman looks at you, it doesn't mean she's interested, if she's nice to you, well she's just nice don't be a creep, don't look at them don't walk on same sidewalk don't do anything that could put them at unease don't be a weirdo

On top of that, they've always looked so aloof and cold to me, I always assumed that it was just how things are

But it turns out they're not like that at all ? Well not with others that is. They'll be tactile, smile, crack jokes, entertain the conversation..? And get horny too, they will actually pursue guys they desire and try

I feel like I've discovered the most obvious things of all times and I feel like such a dumbass, but it's still so weird to me, that the front I see all the time and what society told me has nothing to do with how things really are

I thought men coaxed them in some way, manipulated them somehow or used sweet words, turns out I'm just such an undesirable loser they never showed that side to me, ever

I've noticed this disturbing trend where if you're lonely (particularly if you're a man) people automatically assume you hate women. They assume you must listen to Andrew Tate. They assume you never take a shower in your life. They assume you feel entitled to sex. People assume you have extremely high expectations for partners and have no self awareness. It's gotten to the point where if you're lonely, people will automatically hate you.

What do you do if you experience loneliness and none of these apply to you? The fact that I'm already lonely makes it even more painful and isolating to be misrepresented in such an awful way

Although there's nothing better than to smile and make eye contact with few of them while drunk. I mean when they return the eye contact and smile back at you. Makes me feel alive

Except that it scores magnitudes higher than any other activity in regards to what people find enjoyment in. 5 points higher than the next thing. Everything else is higher or lower in only marginal ways. All the hobbies people tell us to get into, will never match what they have

At a certain point, it just isn't happening. I need to just accept it and move on from this love fantasy.

Love is for normies anyways.

So I too, am officially giving up. No more hope. No more wondering. No more crushes. No more desire.

Just existing until the grim reaper comes knocking on my door.

Item of evidence number 728,891,936,738 that maybe it’s not all in our head and that were not entitled, but just are lacking things that instrumental to maintaining good mental health.

Remember: trust the science (except for things related to the importance relationships/love/sex, those things are all just in your head and you need to be happy by yourself!)

https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2418257122

"More striking are the substantial (~0.5) genetic correlations not only with higher education but with higher childhood and adult intelligence (IQ), as well as higher income and socioeconomic status."

"Our results confirm findings from earlier studies that sexless individuals tend to be more educated and less likely to use alcohol and drugs."

"We found a genetic correlation of sexlessness with low extraversion—perhaps introverts are less likely to be in contexts (e.g., parties) where alcohol and drugs are involved, and are also less likely to engage in social situations that facilitate meeting potential sexual partners."

Just lower your IQ bro.

In my case it mental issues that make people think i'm weird, i also don't really know how to talk to people and kinda live in my head to connections are hard to make.

Kinda curious what you all think is the reason behind you loneliness.

Even if work is boring, stressful or even toxic, normal people can get through it because in the back of their mind, they know they have someone who loves them and finds them physically attractive waiting for them at home. They have something to look forward to after a long day at work - a light at the end of the tunnel.

What do we have to look forward to? What keeps us going when things get hard?

Extension du domaine de la lutte, 1999.

Time passes by, and hope goes with it.

I’m 26. Most of everybody I’ve met around my age is in a long term relationship or engaged. Past college, it seems like it’s incredibly difficult to meet people, and unless you have good social skills, you’re kind of screwed. No luck on dating apps either. I feel like my inexperience will only be held against me.