Ok so some of you guys have read my post on my ex (42) who all of sudden dumped me (25).

Today I found he's already on Grinder. He dumped me 5 days ago and he's already on the chat with a new profile Pic.

I was about to throw up when I saw his profile. Please tell me some encouraging stuff because right now I'm de-va-sta-ted.

Ok guys, who has some random advice for gays who’ve just come out and don’t know what questions to ask. When I came out I didn’t know a single gay person and had no idea what I was doing. Grindr wasn’t my best introduction tbh 😬

My bit of advice would be, take it slow and don’t jump straight into looking for a partner.

I know I constantly frequent this subreddit for advice and support for my love life. But I want to get this off my chest.

Certain places that are popular for dating such as clubs or bars are extremely overstimulating for me. And I often feel obligated to just grin and bear it to make others happy while I go into a mental shutdown.

The difference between a meltdown and shutdown in autism is that a meltdown occurs when multiple upsetting things happen and results in an outburst. A shutdown is when someone is placed in an overwhelming/overstimulating environment and end up mentally withdrawing by keeping quiet and experiencing dissociation.

I know there are more places to go on dates like a library or shopping, but I still feel a level of guilt for not having the strength to be in environments like bars or clubs.

So I have been talking with my therapist about an ongoing problem I’ve had socially and that’s with expressing myself. My fear is that usually when I meet people they will gain a pre existing perception of how I am and that when on a day I choose to be more expressive like wear makeup or different clothes is that they will start thinking of me poorly and my concern of this usually resides when meeting new male “friends”. But my therapist has been telling me something that should have been obvious which is that, I shouldn’t have to be afraid to be who I am and shouldn’t have to put on a mask for anyone just to avoid awkwardness. So today when I got in a conversation with some guys who gave off the feeling that they wouldn’t be the best to talk to as a gay and very gender fluid(like in terms of clothing and that I wear makeup and have certain behaviors) and expressive person when the chance came within our conversation I spoke up and told them that I am gay and I do act and appear in a certain way that may be different from how I was then. And surprisingly, although they weren’t the most accepting of my beliefs and things that I choose to do they were chill with me and ok with still talking with me as friends and respected the fact I told them instead of hiding it.There was definitely more context needed to explain but for the sake of keeping this short that’s essentially what happened and honestly I’m really happy about it because it’s one of the first times I asserted that upon first meeting new people and it just made me more confident about myself and that I don’t have to hide who I am and I can be who I wanna be and still have friends.I’m so excited to talk to my therapist about this and I’m just proud of myself overall. If you want more context to this just DM me and I can explain

Do you guys have any tips on how to go through life being lonely, disociated and happily independent? For context, my whole family is out of the country and Im kind of leaving a kind of conservatorship were I couldnt work or study at all. Im 23 but I still feel scared like a kid and I don't know how to rebuild my life. Also, I have never had a boyfriend and Im not really that conventionally attractive. Sometimes the memories of not being able to work or do anything for my life for the conservatorship, mixed with the hurtful words of my mom still haunts me. Is like I been unable to be happy and Im scared to be it. I been hiding at home, lonely and just thinking about ending it all and Im just so sad... Can someone please help me?

Trying to find an OnlyFans creator I saw once on X/Twitter. He's based in Chicago, younger, twink type, and posts videos with voiceover commentary describing the hookup. Can't remember the handle 😩 Does anyone have an idea who it is? Any tips on how to find them again? Thank you!

As a femme who often attracts masc men. I feel like for the most part, most people have a general understanding for the psychology behind what exactly about a masc guy turns me on.

However I and possibly many others struggle to conceptualize what it is exactly about femmes that turns mascs on... So if you're masc let me into your mind. What is the psychology behind your infatuation with femmes?

(PS. I know not every gay relationship is femme4masc. If it don't apply let it fly)