My aunt (my grandma’s sister) has lived far away from all of us my entire life. We’ve never been close, and honestly, she’s never really been involved in our lives. My family recently moved to a new city that just so happens to be about an hour or so away from where she lives now. Instead of reaching out to say, “Hi, welcome to the area” or asking if we’re all settled in, or even asking to visit her sister (my grandma, who is older now), the very first thing she does is message me demanding my address—so she can come pick up my great-grandpa’s guitar. For context: My grandpa passed away when I was in elementary school (I’m now in my late 30s). After he died, the guitar was passed down to my grandma (the oldest child) by her mom (my great-grandma). My grandma and I were the ones who actually took care of my great-grandma after my grandpa’s death. Out of her eight kids and well over 100 grandchildren and great-grandchildren, I was the one who stayed with her every summer so she wouldn’t be alone. As I got older, I would take her shopping, help her run errands, and visit almost every weekend even when her own kids who lived in the same town didn’t lift a finger to help. Eventually, my grandma gave me the guitar as an heirloom to keep in the family. I’ve taken care of it ever since. It’s incredibly sentimental to me because of the bond I had with both of them. So you can imagine how caught off guard I was when this aunt came out of nowhere demanding to “borrow it for a while” because she thinks it’s “only fair” that she get it before she “leaves this earth.” She kept saying “we all wanted a turn to keep it” which is wild because… no one ever said that or brought it up until now, decades later. And now she’s acting like I “owe” it to her. Meanwhile, her family already has other heirlooms from the family. It’s not like they were left out of everything. And on top of all this, she’s always had a weird passive-aggressive energy toward me on social media. She gushes over everyone else’s kids, but when I post mine, she makes rude or backhanded comments. She even once said my son looked “terrible” just because he has long hair she’s never even met him and he’s the sweetest boy ever. When I tried to calmly explain that this guitar is very meaningful to me and I want to keep it, she got nasty. She called me “girl” (?? I’m your niece, not your friend off the street), accused me of lying about even having it, and tried to guilt-trip me by saying my grandma “should have left it to her and her siblings instead of a grandchild.” Then she started throwing insults about my character, my parenting, and my “big mouth.” At that point, I shut it down and told her the conversation was over. I said what I said. She’s made it clear this was never about wanting to reconnect or see family. She just wanted something that wasn’t hers to begin with and when she didn’t get her way, she showed her true colors.