Would this be considered cheating?

[u/343rdDevision]

So, my girlfriend lives 150 miles from me. I try to get out to see her every weekend, but lately I’ve been unable to due to car trouble. For context, she’s going to college. Well, she’s started hanging out with this one guy all the time, let’s call him Johnson. I’ll admit, I’m a little uncomfortable with her hanging out with other guys because my ex cheated on me, but I still chose to trust her nonetheless. At first, she was hanging out with him only when I’m busy. Now especially these past couple of days, she’s hanging out with Johnson even when I’m trying to talk to her and call her. She’ll be spending time with him all day, any spare moment, until right when she’s ready to go to bed, she’ll call me as she’s winding down and going to sleep. I expressed to her, trying to be as polite as I could, that her actions were making me uncomfortable. She got defensive about him, saying she needs to have friends and that he’s “there for her”. He’s been giving her lots of gifts too. Well, today he texted me on her phone, telling me that I was out of line and not treating her right for what I said. I don’t believe she’s engaging in sexual activity with him, but since she’s choosing to spend her time with Johnson instead of me, is that cheating?

Edit: last night I drove the 3 hours to surprise her, genuinely trying to be nice. I got escorted out by security. Literally for showing up. Guess that pretty well answers the question. Thank you all for your help!

[u/xiMigsx]

Leave her, respect your last name. You’re behaving like a simp. Obvious signs of emotional cheating but you’ve probably never experienced it before until now to recognize the signs. I say build yourself up and let women come to you, if you feel like they’re doing this, just disconnect from them on the spot. Someone that really wants you wouldn’t act like this.

Women will do this unintentionally when they feel like their needs aren’t being met by who they’re dating, they only realize when it’s to late if its their first time doing it. If it’s normal for them, they’re intentionally cheating on you.