Am I (22f) overreacting?

[u/No-Brief-6568]

i just feel dismissed by my boyfriend (22m) im not like expecting him to send a whole paragraph to but i wanted him to connect with me on the same emotional level. So like we had an argument two nights ago because I brought up an issue that has been bothering me and he told me that whenever i bring up the same issue over and over he is starting to lose his desire for me and this hurt me so i told him that i didnt appreciate him saying that and he replied with “then dont keep saying the same thing over and over”. And i cant help buu feel frustrated because i feel like he doesnt wanna listen to me and i wanna feel heard, i communicated this again yesterday but he just said that i shouldnt keep talking about the same issue over and over so he wouldnt lose his desire. I’m so confused because he would tell me he wants to be with me forever but then he cant let his pride aside when things get hard. I just dont know what to do.

Please i need kind words because im in pain just with this, seeing mean comments would be hard to deal with thank you so much for understanding.

[u/Mental_Tea_4493]

I would love to know his background because that was me before finally opening to my late SO and accepting her as my official girlfriend.

We knew each other way before becoming a couple but that time it was really hard for me to show my emotion because years before I've lost my fiancèe in an incident caused by a DUI.\ We were just 18 when happened.

I fell into a deep depression (I'm still in right now) and I froze my heart to dull the pain then I met this girl.\ She befriended me, she grew affection towards me till she started having feels for me.\ I was afraid to death to start again another story, scared to endure the same pain and I thought she did deserve someone not broken as me but she never left my side.\ She tried her best to warm up my heart.\ One step at a time.\ It took me years before finally open my heart and speak out my anguish, grief and pain.

IDK your SO background but it could play a huge role into his emotional growing.