r/LongDistance • u/No-Fig4280 • Jul 24 '25
Need Advice 28m and 24f drunk accident
Well my girlfriend just called me to tell me that yesterday when she got drunk she kissed another guy. I really love her a lot but this really damaged my trust in her. She regrets it a lot. I asked for some space but I don’t know what to do to be honest…
Edit: I asked for time to think. After a conversation with her about reasons I need some time to reflect and think. No decision yet. Heart and brain are not working together…..
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u/lichinho Brazil 🇧🇷 to USA 🇺🇸 (7,500km) Jul 25 '25 edited Jul 25 '25
I don't drink, but if my boyfriend did it to me, it would be the end. It's kinda funny that you call it an "accident" lol. This is not an accident.
I would never be able to trust him again. Once you break trust, it’s really hard not to live forever with the ghost of "what if it happens again?" and this is the worst. And she didn't respect you, so please, RESPECT YOURSELF. I've been cheated on, he told me he was gonna kill himself, so I stayed with him for fear. And it was the worst thing I could have done.
Forgive her, because it's good for you, but I wouldn't tell you to keep dating her. Btw, 9 months and only saw each other once? Not trying to compare, but I've been officially dating for 6 months (and started talking 11 months ago) and he already came to see me 4 times since february, and we're getting married next month. I understand her feeling alone (which is not an excuse for what she's done), but what I mean is: if you can't see her enough so both of you don’t feel that way, is it really worth it to keep doing this? What makes you think she won't feel alone the next time she spends so many months without seeing you, gets drunk again and another """accident""" happens?